@whileyouwonder: Spoiler alert: NTs ask questions just to keep you chatting (because it’s fun) NOT because they want to know the answer. 🤯 Autistic people tend to ask questions to genuinely seek information, not just to keep conversations going (Shillingsburg et al., 2011; Koegel et al., 2010). Social questions that serve no purpose beyond small talk may feel unnatural or unnecessary (Crompton et al., 2020). #autism #adhd #neurodivergent #autismassessor As always, what I share is based on my experience as an autistic autism assessor and speech pathologist, the lived experiences of the autistic community, and what I’ve seen across 8 years of autism assessments. These insights reflect common themes I’ve observed in 'clinical' settings, assessment conversations, and client storytelling. It may not apply to everyone, and research is still catching up on a lot of this! While this content is not intended as clinical advice, it draws on my lived and professional experience to make space for shared understanding and further discussion. I’d love to see even more research in this space, and I’m always open to chatting with or supporting researchers – especially autistic researchers – who feel called to explore and build on these insights. There’s so much more to discover together! 🌻

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kateebuggster
kateebuggster :
The face of horror I just made when you said “just to keep the person chatting” — I can’t think of questions to ask unless I’m in need of information or additional context.
2025-03-31 12:12:25
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alexanderthestrange
AlexanderTheStrange :
I thought the whole point of questions were to get answers. Why are people using them in other ways 😭
2025-03-31 13:30:15
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sazzdawizz
Sazz🧚 :
I feel like I'm being invasive by asking people questions. I just tell people things freely, a complete open book. I presume if people wanted to tell me things they would.
2025-03-31 14:02:26
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qquinte
✨Quinte✨🎀🫶🏻 :
i ask questions cause I feel obligated to make 🥲small talk😭
2025-03-31 12:16:03
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anzodom
AnzoDom :
I ask them because I know I’m supposed to, but omg it’s so boring and exhausts me.
2025-03-31 12:29:47
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ylvarino
Tanja :
My immediate question was "Why is it called blue duck café? Is it duck themed and with blue furniture? Do they have real ducks? Or is it just a lame 'quirky' name with no connection to anything?" 😅
2025-03-31 22:46:18
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chluluc
chlulu :
i want to respond with “Okay” 😭😭😭 I don’t even know what else to say.
2025-03-31 12:25:21
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hokiecmo
Chris :
The worst part is when I ask a question I genuinely want to know the answer to, but they get mad thinking I’m making a veiled insult. I’M NOT ASKING IN BAD FAITH!
2025-03-31 16:18:06
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htims.essirahc
Charisse :
it seems SO RUDE for someone to ask me Qs if they're not interested in my answer.
2025-03-31 13:19:38
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_abbiewynne_
_abbiewynne_ :
For me, it’s both. It depends on who I’m talking to. But I also trained myself to ask questions. Sometimes I respond the second way, catch myself, and then ask questions.
2025-03-31 14:28:25
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bryanjones776
Bryan Jones :
I hate when I ask questions because I'm curious about the answer, but the other person assumes I'm just trying to keep them chatting and never actually answers the question!
2025-03-31 13:48:16
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kaseylynnwaldrop
Kasey Walz ☮️🇺🇸 :
I have to remind myself to ask people questions in convos otherwise I feel like I come across uninterested but then feel awkward asking the same “getting to know you” questions that they just asked me
2025-04-11 01:36:01
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slonkyzoit
Sara :
Also when asking questions when you’re trying to understand something better but the person thinks your agruing or questioning them 😭
2025-03-31 23:06:58
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mrchainsaw182
MrChainsaw182 :
When I'm asked a casual question i.e. "What do you?" "How was your weekend?" etc I usually respond and then completely forget to reciprocate. I'm pretty sure that's what you're supposed to do though
2025-03-31 12:39:42
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joshcarver188
Josh :
Haha why would I want to keep someone talking? 😂 hmmm.... 🤔
2025-03-31 12:06:21
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yedbrug
YedBrug :
“I went to the blue duck cafe” me: why
2025-04-01 00:45:59
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uhpursuit
Pursuit :
My natural response to you saying what u did on the weekend is “ahhhh” Inside I couldn’t care less how your weekend went unless it was something that interests me. I want to change the subject or exit
2025-03-31 23:29:01
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no.shoes42
No Shoes :
I will enjoy small talk when small talk becomes educational and meaningful. I don't understand why people have a problem sitting and thinking.
2025-03-31 12:55:31
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fbb2012
Alejandro :
I would have replied with: cool
2025-04-23 04:15:02
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art.and.autism
Rachel Lynn :
….um I automatically wanna ask “wHY is It caLLeD the BLUE DUCK CAFE??”
2025-04-04 15:58:21
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tamarathompson1987
timtam1987 :
I say, 'oh that's cool'. End of discussion. That is after being told multiple times that I responded wrong. It seems to be the most socially acceptable short response I can give.
2025-04-01 02:03:21
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unhinged.xray.school
Darby | silly xray goose 🩻✨🪿 :
I hate asking questions 💀
2025-04-01 01:33:34
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plumaeprosa
plumaeprosa :
I want to ask questions only when I want to know the answer and respond adding more information but I know I'm not supposed to. People see it as self centered so I ask questions about the person to be nice but its so exhausting
2025-04-02 06:18:37
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taylorthatreader
TaylorBomar :
My first question was “What is that?” 😂 But if I had been there I’d be like OMG I LOVE THAT PLACE
2025-03-31 23:32:56
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caseylbullock
caseylbullock :
I only ask questions for clarification.
2025-03-31 21:59:20
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