@thepsycholotea: They asked for space. So you pulled back. And now… they’re weird. Cold. Watching your stories. Dropping breadcrumbs. You’re not imagining it… Avoidants crave freedom until they feel the weight of your absence. It’s not about you doing something wrong. It’s not about them changing and being better. It’s their nervous system flipping between “don’t get too close” and “please don’t leave me.”… an emotional purgatory. Let that space reveal *them* — not make you question *you*! You don’t have to chase what’s confused about keeping you. ✨ Save this if you need the reminder and motivation. 💌 And if you’re feeling stuck, gentle, personalised support is waiting for you on my site when you’re ready. #relationshipadvice #breakuprecovery #ex #nocontact #avoidant #lettinggo #psychologist #HealingJourney #movingon
They will avoid you not answer texts or calls then ask why you aren’t talking to them 🤦🏻♂️
2025-04-11 01:36:48
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🍂🪐Ali🪐🍂 :
they are impossible istg
2025-04-11 08:37:00
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Giada :
THIS. they want space and freedom, so you back up. but then they’ll blame you to act distant and as consequences they become distant and cold, not realizing it was what they wanted.
2025-04-10 10:49:54
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Peggy :
I have no more tolerance and I don't want to understand avoidants anymore. They need therapy and should stay away from people romantically
2025-05-22 14:24:42
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CP :
Tired of the hot and cold, mixed signals, and absolute lowest possible effort, if you can call it that.
2025-05-10 15:04:42
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Moira Jo :
I used to be like this. I’m so glad I’m secure. It was all about fear
2025-04-24 22:45:09
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Simone 🏳️🌈 :
this is so damn tiring, went no contact and blocked her. I hope she is missing me cause I spent missing her every day waiting for her damn responded. no more access
2025-04-11 17:19:09
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○● :
I thought I learned my lesson the first time but no, and now I hurt again 😂
2025-04-11 10:28:54
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GEORGIE :
Heavy on the emotional whiplash 😅
2025-04-11 09:11:33
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00000/000000 :
yes, my FA ex come back after 3 months after he asked for the breakup, definitely crawling back to me! but guess, i’m FA too🤡
2025-04-10 14:47:08
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Mare Yaya :
He left me, then he came back desperate to look for me, I went back with him he left again and ghosted me for 3 months now he sees me and smiles at me and makes flirtatious faces
2025-04-10 20:05:12
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Sana_Shehryar02 :
FACTS!
2025-04-11 13:56:59
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Sana :
Had this experience it’s annoying
2025-04-12 23:31:18
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evedaniellepaulette :
Yep !!
2025-04-11 22:13:52
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naya_robert :
😂 yes and they get mad when you are moving on because they thought you were owing them a good stringing along for at least a year before they stopped caring completely if you are alive even
2025-04-11 02:58:18
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🌚 :
literally. i went no contact and she blocked me 😂
2025-04-11 13:57:31
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Melissa :
This. This is so true. And now we’re done and I’m not ever texting or calling or wanting to hear from him again. Please God never let him reach out again
2025-04-14 18:33:12
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Claire Highton-Stevenson :
100%...and then they're chasing their ex...or dating someone new
2025-04-10 19:53:24
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Nomans :
When you don’t take them serious they suddenly are nothing
2025-04-30 01:56:29
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garyhalpin89 :
they didn't come back 😔
2025-04-11 12:45:21
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CalidreamG :
I told mine I needed space. He asked me what he did wrong, he wanted to fix it. He had never asked for space. He has taken the last few days to breathe and I’m fine because I have my own struggles. I told him I’m here when he is ready to talk.
2025-07-07 22:28:25
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Hollywood :
When she say she needs space and I go silent, she sends me 100 texts...this is all true.
2025-06-30 09:22:30
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JESS MARIEXX :
Mine had never asked me a question about my life. He hates that I am successful
2026-01-10 03:15:48
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Sonam :
Yup when you give them what they want, they find other ways to reach out and torture you. Nothing bothers me anymore. They can fall off the face of the earth for all I care. Don’t play the cold game with me, I will make sure I win.
2025-06-08 23:03:56
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