@thepsycholotea: Mixed signals don’t just confuse you they condition you. You weren’t imagining the intensity. You were reacting to inconsistency that hijacked your nervous system. When someone gives you *just* enough to keep you hoping, but not enough to feel secure, your brain enters a loop: Crave > chase > crash > repeat. That’s not love, that’s intermittent reinforcement and it’s why silence (as painful as it is) is actually *safer* in the long run. Here’s how you heal in the silence: ✅ Don’t feed the breadcrumbs: no more decoding their behaviour or looking for signs. ✅ Remind your body: it’s safe now, even without closure. Be self affirming “I don’t need them to heal”. ✅ Rebuild your sense of safety through consistent habits and people, not chaotic connections. You don’t miss them. You miss *certainty*. And the moment you stop confusing chaos with chemistry… that’s when healing begins. 💛 Save this to remind you to stay in the silence. #relationshipadvice #breakuprecovery #ex #nocontact #avoidant #lettinggo #psychologist #HealingJourney #movingon

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Thursday 17 April 2025 06:09:10 GMT