@jordanjeppe: Save this for when the healthy love feels scary. #slowburn #relationships #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousattachment

Lexi aka Momhew :

I have been journaling and reflecting on the self sabotage bit for awhile, I guess I’m wondering now what slow love is suppose to look like? Like a beginners list of things to look out for? Thanks ♾️

ℍ𝕚𝕡𝕡𝕚𝕖 :

would love your perspective on Retroactive jealousy 💯

fá ☁️🪱 :

this is exactly how i’ve been feeling, it’s so mentally draining because it seems i’m in this rollercoaster of emotions but it’s all in my head, in reality things are fine but i’m used to the rush

champagne :

Girl you didn’t hold my hand😭

GothLynx :

the sad part about this is I KNOW my patterns and that I self sabotage, I'm very desperately trying to keep myself in the calm without doing anything about it

Robbie :

I just sabotaged my healthy relationship by my countless and thoughtless word spirals and I can’t forgive myself for the fact I made him tired and depressed because I feel unsafe even though this is the safest I felt.

lovetiffhallxo :

I’m in a very healthy relationship and this just gave me some clarity because I thought I was going crazy, it’s just so calm and refreshing

Erika 🖤 :

This was so loud and violent 😭😭😭

Kirky Sorgiovanni :

But how do you sit in the discomfort and not wish your heart didn’t ache. How do you survive the anxiety and uncertainty. How do I learn to trust what my new partner is offering is safe and secure

kayley ho :

“BECAUSE STABILITY FEELS SUSPICIOUS WHEN YOU GREW UP WITHOUT IT” you just came for my soul

ChampagneMami🍾🌺💫 :

So I'm the problem

lauriemarieloves :

I’ve just begun walking through this… I’m grateful you’re here sharing 💗🙏🏻

Chence :

he's trying his best to prove that he's serious

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Stephanie :

you just saved me from crashing out, thanks

sisikitihanimom :

I am used to lovebombing and rushed relationship 💀

EriiCa <3 :

Damn… thank you honestly

M :

Thank you for this, it honestly couldn't have been more relatable. I now know why I feel the way I do so let me get back to his message 😭

sanandosinfiltros.patri :

As a psychologist myself, this was my pattern in relationships, and it still amazes me how we self sabotage subconsciously just because it is what is familiar to us 😮‍💨🙄

✨Winterwendigo✨ :

As a narcissist serviver having a calm very supportive boyfriend who loves being with me but also loves doing his own thing and I get to do my own this is the best and most most terrifying thing I just got use to

iwantdubaichewiehrightneow :

damn😭 what are some things i can do to slowly stop self sabotaging? i feel like its been so embedded into my mindset that i start to feel everyone hates me, its really holding me back

asma :

i’m so aware of that and i’m trying to heal my avoidant attachment but it’s so hard for me, i genuinely don’t wanna hurt this person but it’s too late

Benny LaShay 🫶🏾 :

Omg currently. I’m just trying to protect myself though.