@thepsycholotea: You want closeness — but the moment someone gets too close, you shut down. You feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or even irritated by affection… Then guilty for pulling away. This is what avoidant attachment really feels like on the inside. Avoidants aren’t cold they’re overwhelmed. By vulnerability. By the fear of being engulfed. By the idea that love might come with expectations they don’t know how to meet. If this is you, here’s how to start softening the pattern: ✅ Pause instead of retreating: name the discomfort before disappearing ✅ Let safe people in slowly: connection doesn’t have to be all or nothing ✅ Remind your body: closeness doesn’t mean control You don’t have to push people away to protect your peace.You can learn to hold both space and connection at once. It won’t happen all at once. This takes time, consistency and understanding from both partners. We are rewiring patterns and habits, that’s not easy but starts with small intentional changes. Drop a 🖤 if you’ve ever struggled with letting people in. #relationshipadvice #breakuprecovery #ex #nocontact #avoidant #lettinggo #psychologist #HealingJourney #movingon

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Tuesday 22 April 2025 11:08:48 GMT