Dr. Bowen Tyler Marshall
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Friday 25 April 2025 12:28:48 GMT
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Kipp 🌱 (they/them) :
AuDHD who was responsible for regulating my undiagnosed parent. Consciously I know my AuDHD partner’s dysregulation is not my responsibility, but I still feel so anxious and afraid every time 🥲
2025-04-25 20:03:32
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Did you just stab me ?
2025-04-25 17:45:54
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Artemis-Ameretsu ☮️ for 🇵🇸 :
My adhd partner has trouble regulating their own emotions, I've started withdrawing until they actually come and ask me for help/comfort/an ear, ect. Its definitely helped with people pleasing
2025-04-28 12:24:32
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Echo :
"do you want to vent/talk, space/quiet (if i cant give space like in the car), or advice/reassurance?" (insert the slashed words according to issue). if they pick space/quiet remind them you are there
2025-04-26 19:29:32
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sleepy :
IF YOU AREN'T OK JUST SAY I'M NOT OK. I CAN NOT READ YOUR EMOTIONS WELL.
2025-04-26 14:48:08
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Wergar Prime :
this may work for a large number of people but I find that making blanket statements or assumptions can be a slippery slope. if you have effective communication with each other or at least genuine intentions to do so. then there's no reason to play these kinds of head games of "checking in less".
2025-04-26 18:26:37
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itsatiepo :
My husband (aut) and me (adhd) have. a habit of just asking "are you mad at me?" "no" then moving on.
2025-04-28 04:50:14
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Caseyplz :
Been trying to do this and self soothe. Also other than just saying are you okay, I ask what I think more specifically might be going on, usually it's just sensory discomfort.
2025-04-25 18:14:15
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mikki :
my nervous system refuses to listen to me if I tell it that my partner isn't upset because of me. my body immediately forgets and defaults to feeling like I've done something wrong and need to adjust.
2025-04-28 21:35:15
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Jurgita :
Also with the right person it doesn't matter how many times you check in. And in majority cases we simply are with wrong people.
2025-04-25 18:50:43
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Jay :
I check in because I can't tell what they're feeling. I'm actually asking what they're feeling, so I know, not always to change it
2025-05-01 13:38:49
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potatozrainbow :
secret third option 😌 I don't care if it's about me or not until you tell me 🥰 and if you can't tell me? that's on u 🙃
2025-04-25 17:55:03
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houseofperiods :
wow.
2025-04-25 12:54:55
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ramblingvagrant :
the third panel of the golden gate bridge print is crooked
2025-04-30 13:46:34
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donna | glass artist :
this is so smart, I’ve definitely been in this pattern before as the person reassuring and felt like there wasn’t room for me to show my feelings out of fear of dysregulating the other person
2025-04-26 04:33:12
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Dawn V :
Thank you for this!
2025-04-25 12:44:01
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Blaire | @blairewilsonproject :
I’m glad our trauma was the first thing my husband and I worked on while dating. That, coupled with individual therapy and medication, has allowed us to become a healthy unit.
2025-04-26 10:37:14
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Cholovibez :
This is what I’m working on! Thank you for breaking this down 😭
2025-04-25 16:18:50
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jam 🍄 :
I hate how useful this advice was, thank you haha
2025-04-29 20:16:33
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L :
just a piece of genuine constructive feedback: autism isn't a mental health condition. very good advice though!
2025-04-30 18:46:57
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[CS]cyanideSuprise :
I have a rule of asking three times and then just accepting the answer and moving on
2025-04-29 09:23:11
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TheAdventuresofHannah :
But how do I do that ? (Audhd person here genuinely want to learn)
2025-04-28 21:27:16
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فلسطين حرة حرة :
the bridge is killing me
2025-04-28 21:11:34
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Insert username here. :
Co regulating is different than checking in. Why would you put them in the same category?
2025-04-29 02:53:18
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