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Maureen Hamblin :
I agree with this for empathic ppl. Not for narcissistic serial cheaters!!
2025-04-25 14:31:37
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hattie :
Yes - had an affair when my son was young. Felt fat, tired, and like I was just a mum. Having an affair made me young and fun again. Not sure I’d recommend in the long run though 😅
2025-04-25 17:57:58
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Cassa Balla :
It’s so much deeper. Unresolved childhood trauma and the inability to communicate your needs. Addiction to the dopamine hit affairs give. Lack of empathy.
2025-04-26 13:24:03
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LU1540 :
this is why getting cheated on and labeling yourself as "not enough" is never the answer. it's not you, it's them
2025-04-25 19:13:18
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Amadora :
The person they used to be was single…
2025-04-25 17:29:10
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Wendy :
he cheated after 25 years 💔
2025-04-25 20:25:05
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Emdash80 :
Honestly every person (in a relationship or not) should read State of Affairs. It’s such a mind blowing insight to human needs for connection and self-actualization
2025-04-25 16:48:32
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ive a mug of silver eyeballsᛉ :
and then they blame you for the version of themself that they are. like... maybe tell me what you feel and how i can support you? right?
2025-04-25 22:53:54
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G :
I think that’s totally true it’s an ego thing more than a dislike or desire for others
2025-04-26 18:32:39
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Vicky :
My husband became obsessed with running in the lead up to his affair. It became this search for an ego boost and self punishing cycle. Wanting external validation. While excluding me and the kids from that side of his life. It consumed him and pushed us away and then he
2025-04-26 11:39:59
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Steve | Widowhood & Dating :
I would add that the result of that is resentment, which increases the likelihood of cheating even further
2025-04-25 23:10:18
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Brittany Vasseur :
I think it’s that persons level of integrity and self control
2025-04-27 20:09:11
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Lena :
But what if you weren’t the one making them feel invisible and they made you feel that way but you still stuck around and encouraged them to fight through things like addiction and supported them
2025-04-26 03:21:12
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waygook7 :
the problem is most people wouldn't address this and rather cheat
2025-04-26 08:41:10
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Lo van Loo :
Had an open relationship and the reason behind that is very much the same... It was never about someone new, it was about hating who I'd become with him.
2025-04-26 07:42:54
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laloulu😑 :
why would the betrayed stay and "help" the cheater feel connected, what?! we all have our own issues and are responsible for dealing/healing them. I'm not responsible for his trauma/attachment. No
2025-04-27 13:10:54
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Cake Moss :
Or they’ve just checked out because they’re tired of asking for the same things again and again - reciprocity, practical support, shared emotional load…
2025-04-27 19:11:41
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ginad555 :
No, they are not happy and have typically chosen the wrong partner
2025-04-26 11:40:15
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Baller :
Sometimes you just meet some you have a spiritual connect with and that conquers any emotions or discipline
2025-04-25 20:57:30
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@shlee :
how do you tell the difference between this and the romanticizing of the past that dismissive avoidants do?
2025-04-26 17:29:03
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Kim Walsh :
100%
2025-04-25 21:52:40
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livvvylooloo27🇦🇺 :
Hmmm I dunnooooo, some people cheat because they’re just awful people who don’t care about their partner at all. If you’re unhappy, just leave
2025-04-26 12:30:40
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𝕸𝖆𝖌𝖎𝖐𝖊𝖑𝖑 :
Someone tag my ex for me, I'm blocked.
2025-04-25 22:38:19
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