@heryogimind: Avoidantly attached people ALL use this. #avoidantattachment #defense #psychology #fyp

dawnie darko :

ok, and anxious attachments do this thing where they pretend they're healthy communicators but they're actually over communicators and emotionally exhaust and bulldoze their partners ☠️none of the attachments are healthy but secure 🫶🏼

🫧 :

me taking notes about myself ✍️✍️

MB :

Can we normalize making content trying to help avoidants instead of tearing them down? SOOOO many videos of this and helping avoidant partners but nobody wants to heal the FAs or especially DAs…

Nomhle Dlamini :

Ooop im in enemy territory

Maryam Saad :

MyPepsiPussy :

They swear nothing can touch them But they are slaves of the things they try to escape from

tracebellevie :

Most are not doing this consciously. It is how their nervous system developed, literally biological.

Dee 💋🤎🍫 :

Anxiously attached folks, you gotta GET A GRIP. Your ‘needs’ aren’t excuses to disrespect boundaries, trauma-dump daily, and blame everyone but yourselves. Over-communicating? Nah, that’s just control in a feelings costume. You claim to want connection but really just want a security blanket. Therapy isn’t for venting, it’s for GROWING. Try not being a professional victim and maybe people will stick around. Anxiously attached people make even the most secure people avoidant after a while.

carrrrlz :

lmao they try to call YOU crazy for communicating directly and calmly…. rather than self reflecting on how emotionally reactive they actually are

omorchú :

In addition, they intellectualise the situation, almost like a disengaged counsellor.

Vinsanity :

They love gaslighting and throwing insecure , toxic , misunderstood , judgemental at you

Chanel🍄✨️ :

Avoidance of emotions is never logical.

Cosmic Auntie :

could also be presented as "devils advocate"

nisha 🎴 :

Ohhh I’m in enemy territory lol 💀

dynamicallydara :

I’m convinced we all dated the same person cuz ain’t no way there’s a whole community of people like this. Sorry yall, but thank you for letting me know I’m not alone in this.

saira.k44 :

Thats what makes ppl fall in love with them cos they are so put together and calm

Mbalz :

Anxious attachments are the worst not avoidants

Gigi🔅 :

Oh who is you💔

Dysania :

As a fearful avoidant I am constantly fighting my urges to run. And it’s why I have never had a boyfriend because I know I am going to run. We are trying to heal y’all tear me down and make me feel I should just die in a hole

user3348820929885 :

they use "pop" psychology a lot , saying things like it is what it is ! when it's something rhat could be worked through easily

deddy :

i used to think i was a pretty self aware person but turned out it was hyper vigilance. i’m learning childhood cptsd isn’t like acute ptsd. you can’t necessarily be aware of it in the same way

tabratzzz :

They do A LOT OF PROJECTION

chibby💞 :

oh who is you

ilikeanimeandmanga♡ :

Some Avoidants want freedom and peace. If you're emotional and needy it will turn them off. Avoidants need people who are self-sufficient. Not all Avoidants are manipulative or using you for something. In some cases, both people were the problem. Sure I'm emotionally unavailable (I'm the Avoidant) but my ex was the problem. He lacked ambition, he was irresponsible and immature. Sometimes the "Victim" isn't really the victim, maybe they did something wrong but they're not aware of it.