Started seeing a guy who’s screen time on his phone is an average of 2 hours. Weekly. Majority of that is responding to me 😂
2025-06-23 02:57:38
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Rita :
nobody is more busy than a man who has no interest in you 😅😅😅
2025-06-24 13:04:33
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joy :
This is so true!! As a fearful avoidant, I’ve had to work on patience. I almost wrote him of several times. But I’m super happy with this slow burn since I realized it’s what I’ve always wanted!
2025-06-23 12:09:49
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Annie Chen :
So basically you’re saying women should accept crumbs early on because ‘that’s just how love looks now’?
Nah, I prefer someone who shows up, makes me feel wanted, and doesn’t treat me like a low-priority side quest.
‘Secure’ doesn’t mean absent. It means present even if it’s just a ‘hey, thinking of you’ text.
Settling for less isn’t spiritual growth, it’s emotional starvation. Pass.
2025-06-27 11:28:26
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Megannnnnnn :
And he’s NOT going to be entertaining 40’other woman on dating apps.
2025-06-23 14:51:29
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mustbefayte :
This happened to me, I nearly sabotaged it early on because I thought he wasn’t interested. Turns out I just wasn’t used to a normal/healthy pace. He’s my bf now (took us 5 months) and it’s the most secure relationship of my life
2025-06-23 18:22:51
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Sarybel Lechler :
This… I needed to hear this…🥰🥰
2025-06-22 22:45:40
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Eddalys Valentin :
How do we know the difference between that and a man who simply is not interested? Because sometimes it’s a bit hard to distinguish.
2025-06-23 11:55:06
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lynnielivesincolor :
Ugh. Just realized I am being so anxious! 😢
2025-06-22 23:27:31
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Barbie Roberts :
The timing is crazy, hes like this
2025-07-05 19:33:33
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Celeste_pewter :
This is how I know the algorithm is for me 😂
2025-06-23 08:08:03
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TEQUILANDI :
I get this, but I also have seen very busy man still give the minimum of attention needed so that’s why it doesn’t make sense
2025-08-29 20:38:06
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Fknpigeon :
YES, this is true. I’m currently experiencing a secure men for the first time and he’s exactly like that! Its forced me to do some serious work on my part because I’ve only had avoidant man.
2025-06-25 04:46:42
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Bamabelle001 :
Sooo true and I can attest to this as I’m saying a secure man but shew, those first few months were rough! I had to regulate my nervous system
2025-06-23 01:35:41
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Cardi S :
NO YOU CANT SCARE THE GOOD ONE OFF.
2025-07-16 23:26:28
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LEAH❤️🔥 | Magnetic Mindset ✨ :
Thank you for validating how I’ve been feeling! This feels so much healthier and safer than any other relationship I’ve been in. Secure, consistent, and respectful ❤️❤️❤️
2025-06-23 02:49:05
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Donita :
I’m learning this as we speak. I have extreme anxious attachment and all of my relationships have been like the first example. I’m now talking to a guy who seems very secure and communicates in a relatively healthy way while also still tending to his everyday life and sometimes it feels like he’s not giving me nearly as much attention. But hearing this has me thinking maybe it really is just me and what I’m used to.
2025-06-25 23:12:41
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DannaeB :
So you mean to tell me I have this man who actually love me and I’m here pushing him away because I think he’s not making as much effort🥺🥺 lemme go apologize🥴
2025-06-24 20:32:45
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Amanda :
Just don’t mistake a dismissive avoidant as a secure man… They present wayyy differently than a fearful avoidant and can seem secure at first
2025-06-23 15:19:11
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Annie :
You have no idea how relevant this is - thank you! I needed this reminder!!
2025-07-14 19:46:38
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Meghana :
Girllllll the way I needed this right now cause I’m going through this!
2025-06-23 05:06:14
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dcolonna17 :
This is. How my last one was - great when we were in person built a great emotional connection but the communication was lacking and my anxiousness prob caused a little self sabotage - this is legit what happened - now we’re no contact for a month ugh
2025-06-23 02:17:40
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Kristy Lee :
I thought mine was a slow burn and he was an avoidant
2025-06-23 19:06:57
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CC :
agree with you. i think this is a HUGE issue with the language on tik tok. no one should be texting you every day if they do not know you!!
2025-06-23 20:06:03
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