@bayavoce: We've optimized for convenience and accidentally swiped away our capacity for connection. We expect love to come ready-made and don't know what to do with it when it's not. The brutal irony: we want infinite freedom and safety but don't understand the skills to get us there. We want to be seen without revealing ourselves. We expect our partners to decode us like some beautiful mystery, then get pissed when they guess wrong. We've taken away every friction point, but friction is exactly what builds relational muscle. Your person isn't psychic, they're human. With their own wiring, their own wounds, their own way of loving that might look nothing like yours. The most profound intimacy doesn't happen through telepathy. It happens through the messy work of saying ""this is how I need to be loved."" Great relationships don't just happen. They come from those tough talks nobody wants to have. #relationships #connection #intimacy
Yeah because a lot of the ‘advice’ on the internet says walk away as soon as someone does something you don’t like & call it protecting your peace. No one has healthy confrontation or conflict resolution skills. And mind readers we are not. Some people don’t know themselves either so how do you expect someone else to?
2025-06-24 08:57:19
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Yaku 🇳🇦 🇦🇺 🇵🇹 :
If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished? - Rumi
2025-06-25 01:03:50
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paulasanchezcummings :
This would be accurate
2025-08-26 13:55:08
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Anna.Short :
I honestly don’t know where else to say this, but I have to share it here. I found something truly mind-blowing. The book Money Untold Essence by Steve Colt is on a whole different level, especially for anyone chasing success.
2025-06-26 11:54:23
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TJ :
i think vulnerability is key to intimacy, and that requires honest conversations.
2025-06-24 13:41:33
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Jalen :
Everyone wants to be known, yet they’re afraid to be seen
2025-06-24 21:10:34
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Rachel Diotte :
WoW ! Love it !
2025-06-24 12:31:27
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Ashley P :
They need to teach that in schools, conflict resolution
2025-06-25 11:48:34
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user76 :
I am a lover, not a fighter.
2025-07-07 00:47:25
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~▪︎☆Th€ssan☆▪︎~ :
Soo yeah, but to get there you have to even find a worthy partner to experince this with. At this point we dont even get to step 1.
2025-06-24 10:43:14
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gina :
but what if you try to tell the partner what you need and then the person says you are just blaming em ?
2025-06-24 15:59:13
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flowerstoronto :
Yes. I did not realize it until my friend’s boyfriend told me: she doesn’t tell me what I did upset her. She expects me to know or figure it out.
2025-06-24 21:31:28
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Mina Stardust :
the reason is why I choose someone who feel safe with me... communication and safety is the key word......
2025-06-24 09:25:28
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tsheringyangzom247 :
Agree.🤗
2025-06-24 14:47:29
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EnglishVocabs :
The greatest problem is uncommunicated expectations
2025-06-24 22:18:41
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crosario7765 :
Social atrophy is due to the self isolation due to the comfort and lack of contradiction from the cell phone.
2025-06-24 19:50:24
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Ash :
My ex boyfriend was frustrated multiple times throughout the relationship because I couldn’t read his mind and know exactly what he wants. I tried to explain I wasn’t a mind reader, but he felt like if we were truly compatible I would be able to understand what he wants without it being said. It made me feel crazy. :(
2025-06-24 23:59:23
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Moss :
Imagine what it will be like 40 years from now when the population doesn’t know how to communicate. It will be consisting of the products of us, people who shied away from facing talking. Atrophy will create a new society and I just hope they will evolve to be able to survive. Otherwise the human species will be dead, how do we procreate if we are not communicate.
2025-07-06 07:30:40
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ro ca :
I don't agree, I believe EXPECTATIONS is distorting relationships
2025-06-24 13:42:50
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Glyphus86 :
Esther Perel is amazing!
2025-06-29 07:33:47
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Massimo~DiCioccio🇨🇦🇮🇹 :
we doomed thank God I grew up in the 70s 80s
2025-06-24 17:13:36
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Yhavlimits :
Love is what Tik Tok tells them it is. They look at Tik Tok and then judge their partner based on their algorithm 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
2025-06-25 18:31:23
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Buckets Super Secret Tok :
😳 Your reading my mind
2025-06-24 18:43:56
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Mark Schofield :
Good point
2025-06-24 16:51:03
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Sara-Ann Rosen, J.D., M.A. :
💯 Say it again for the people in the back!🥰
2025-06-24 21:37:10
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