@bojackhorseshit: i was adopted into a white family. i never had any issues with being in a white family as my parents wishes for me included appreciation and participation on my part in my culture whether it's my black side or my indian side; regardless i was always in predominantly white spaces. i have a looser curl pattern. unfortunately due to texturism it was actually something heavily appreciated by the black people in my life because my hair wasn't "unkempt". even though the appreciation came from a weird place i loved my hair growing up and then in 6th grade one of my white friends used the words "nappy bird's nest" during PE to describe my hair and right in that moment i realized the standards i am held to as a POC are different than the standards that black people in black communities were held to. similar but not the same. growing up queer i was friends with a lot of white girls. white girls who shopped at brandy melville, fried their hair, burned themselves to a crisp in the sun, and drank white claws on the beach. i conformed to a lot of these ideals and there is nothing more i regret than succumbing to texturism and hating my hair and wanting it to look a way that my genetics wouldn't allow it to without hair botox treatments and straightening it damn near everyday. all this to say that once the botox wore off i never had more appreciation for my hair. the volume, the pattern, the way it bounces, and the way it makes me feel most of all. #sza #blacklove

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