@kiaabrera: Your pain is valid. Using it as a weapon isn’t. There’s a difference between explaining your behavior and excusing it. Important context: This message is about conscious accountability - when we’re aware of our patterns but continue using pain to justify harm. If you’re still discovering the root of your reactions, that’s different. Seek support, find your safe truth-tellers, and be patient with your process. The real issue isn’t the pain itself - it’s the intention behind how we handle it. When hurt becomes a deliberate tool to hurt others, that’s where we cross the line from healing to harm. Both authenticity AND accountability matter. We can hold space for our wounds while taking responsibility for our impact.

Regine IG :

exactly. our healing is our responsibility, so does our reaction to our feelings. So its a no for me when people are romaticizing the idea of a villain was born because he was once hurt by the world. Heroes are hurt too, maybe even more than the villain, but he still chose to do good and not to hurt other people.

Psycho_uno :

your trauma is not everyone's responsibility. You should not expect everyone to tiptoe around you just so they cannot wake up your triggers. We all have our traumas but it's not an excuse to hurt anyone.

chinju 🧷 :

can hurt people stop hurting people ? ☹️

R e x :

The intelligent one's break the cycle, not repeat it.

🍁 :

😥 too late for me as I've already pushed the only person away who only made me feel seen for years.

berber bryan on ig :

Same with money, money doesn't give you free pass to insult others

rmn. :

Basically, your emotions are valid but they’re not always justified.

hannah :

word for word girl till the very end 👏👏

mann180480 :

Being strong means you stay benevolent despite the wars inside your head and the battles in your heart...

Yoink! :

Neon Genesis Evangelion. Ep. 12. She said “Don’t make others suffer for your personal hatred”.

KNAVISH :

I strongly agree! No one heals themselves by wounding another.

+YesH+ :

Good but your words will not work with narcs. Sadly, there is no law against narcs.

_monkeyD.luffy56 :

amen

Veee :

fr fr FR FOR REAL 🔥. you do not cause pain for others just bec you feel like you have the "right". YOU DO NOT CROSS THAT LINE.

Charles :

If only those people who hurt us - saw this video and now we have to heal our own self.

Harley Del Castillo :

"I hope she'll get to watch this, and I hope that someday, the sweet, caring and loving person I once knew comes back"

Mama_Merry :

Exactly! Hindi sila mag aadjust sa’yo at hindi iikot ang mundo dahil nasaktan ka. Dahil lahat naman tayo may pinag dadaanan. Ang pinaka maganda, maging compassionate ka dn sa iba dahil alam mo ung feeling ng nasaktan.

Trudie :

Yes! Also stress. Stress/life being hard doesn’t give you a pass to hurt others

Coole Mami :

I stay kind towards others despite of being hurt , my problem is gusto ko gantihan yong nanakit saakin 😓

Doc Pan 🦷 :

narcissists would say this is gaslighting

miggy mango :

May Huiso :

D’you have podcast?

Dada seph :

how do you respond to this kind of people?

Ræm :

Louder for the people at the back!!!