@paulinethepsychologist: Why do children of immigrants tend to be more anxious than our parents? Well, the truth has many components.  Our parents have had their fair share of anxiety, but how they acknowledged it and dealt with it seems to be the most significant difference.  Our parents may not have had the language to name their experience as "anxiety." They may have called it nerves or just never acknowledged these feelings out loud.  For our elders, prayer and community healing were likely what they used to relieve these anxious feelings. Some of our families have had close-knit communities for generations, where decades of ancestral knowledge, medicine, and ritual have been passed down from one person to another. Although our immigrant parents had to adjust to a new place, they often grew up in monocultural settings versus many children of immigrants whose upbringing as multicultural beings can add layers of uncertainty about who we are and where we belong.  Additionally, the generational changes and impact of increased digitization without increased connectedness as a buffer and resource is weighing on us collectively.

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nessieology
✧ nessieology ✧ :
My nervous system has always been bad and this makes sense 😭😭😭
2025-06-30 16:56:12
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galacticplanetfairy
⋆。𖦹 ˚。⋆ naomi 𖠰 ᨒ 𓆉 𓆡⋆.𓇼 :
Im just another statistic 😭
2025-06-30 17:49:07
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cy.go
CY :
because we've been in foght or flight our ENTIRE LIVES
2025-06-30 17:20:35
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wheredidmyglassesgo
✨m✨ :
Real 🥹 was parentified and forced to translate medical/legal docs since first grade AND I then had the typical anxieties of growing up
2025-06-30 17:39:47
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magali_gf90
Magali_GF90 :
Because we see the racism that was shown to our parents and we understand it
2025-07-01 00:34:24
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acaibpgwvq4
somebody :
We transmuted the anxiety into overachievement. Lol in case anyone was wondering…so terrified of not being ok we studied harder and stayed up later. 😭
2025-07-01 10:08:04
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aj_327_
Aj_327💜 :
Im so glad people are talking about this- I feel like as a US born child of immigrants a lot of our issues are dismissed due to being told it’s a privilege to be a citizen here as this is the “ land of dreams” in their eyes
2025-07-01 14:49:40
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u39287484
Eiza :
I’m 30 and im anxious more than my parents 😂😭
2025-07-02 13:56:23
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itsrinamaria
ItsRina :
This is top tier analysis.
2025-06-30 17:34:28
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pnwfoo
Omi 💫 :
Im def a statistic 😭
2025-07-01 18:03:00
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vvk_xyz
Vivek :
I've never felt more seen. Thank you
2025-07-02 00:04:14
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edithrubiog
Edithrubio :
Going to therapy and medicated now bc I have severe anxiety 🥲
2025-06-30 23:52:17
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julienmeyerquebec
julienmeyerquebec :
Ok but "plant medicines" ???
2025-09-06 21:14:15
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miel.y.canelaa
miel.y.canelaa :
You basics described my upbringing 😭
2025-08-07 02:08:39
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californiagirl368
user2085413832869 :
Yup!
2025-06-30 16:30:12
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jntran96
pjybrat :
its the epigenetics 🥹
2025-07-01 14:33:47
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casadeanna
CasadeAnna :
This makes sense. I feel seen😫
2025-07-01 00:19:13
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nubefans
k :
and now the anxious ones are my parents!!!
2025-06-30 17:40:36
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atxaury
・:*+.\ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ/.:+ :
This makes alot of sense. The real question is, what now?
2025-07-01 20:16:22
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lemontree141
Lemon tree :
What about the 1.5 generation? Children who came as immigrants before adolescence. Their parents were often newer immigrants, so it’d be interesting to learn those unique experiences. I imagine even higher heightened anxiety and stress
2025-07-01 16:47:11
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iamlizlopez
Liz Lopez :
recently realized in therapy that i am constantly in an anxious state and i feel it throughout my entire body. so yes. accurate
2025-07-01 14:12:14
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jennym.guevara
Jenny M. Guevara :
First-Gen here 🙌🏽 Yes yes yes to all of these.
2025-07-01 22:03:11
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thisnottracy
thiszuzu 🍉 :
when i first recognized this, it changed so much about what i thought about my parents. it went from “why don’t you get it” to “you get it, but you don’t feel it the same way”
2025-07-01 17:53:34
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soulmateloveuniversity
Emmy :
Powerful share 🙏🏼 Thank you
2025-06-30 23:01:13
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berthabrito215
Bebrie :
Guilty. 🙋🏽‍♀️
2025-06-30 20:54:18
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