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Danielle Askin | Author :
What makes it toxic masculinity is the fact that in processing his emotions on his own he eliminates input and collaboration with a woman he is supposed to view as an equal partner in life. If the husband is using emotional distance and making all the decisions unilaterally, that is toxic masculinity at its finest because it severely limits the choices and rights of his partner to participate in decisions that will ultimately affect her. Every woman deserves the respect of autonomy and the right to make choices with all the information pertinent to his experience. Otherwise, it’s not love. It’s control.
2025-07-03 08:19:51
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chris vincent746 :
You want a woman to see you as a looser?? Share a single problem you’ll never get laid again 😅
2025-07-03 04:43:43
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renee-on-tiktok 🇨🇦 :
Your partner wants you to share those thoughts, fears, anxieties etc because it builds connection through reciprocity. We’re not asking you to change the way you process, we’re asking to be a part of it. To feel as part of the team
2025-07-02 14:25:21
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Tal :
i think whats truly toxic is the ignorance women have towards the nature of men
2025-07-03 09:32:20
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Schnarfleharfle :
It’s fine to process internally BUT you must communicate with your partner that you’re not abandoning them or punishing them with silence, which is what a lot of men do. They need to learn to communicate that they need space if other responsibilities are taken care of ( childcare etc), that they will return and when, that they will work towards a resolution and actually initiate the conversation to do this, instead of running away from it. That leaves your partner feeling abandoned and worthless. If you’re in a relationship you have a responsibility to protect your partner’s emotional wellbeing as well as your own.
2025-07-02 22:54:42
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heymamaspace :
But don’t forget to talk about it after processing.
2025-07-02 16:04:15
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jblairkiddo :
I can understand this, however emotional avoidance, anger, moods wings, and staying in thoughts and creating negative narratives and festering there is very unhealthy
2025-07-02 16:14:57
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Melanie Ebejer :
Emotional intelligence isn’t about how much someone talks about their feelings — it’s about whether they take responsibility for how they handle them. A man retreating to work on something in silence might be processing; he might also be hiding. A woman needing to talk things through might be seeking connection; she might also be trying to control the emotional pace. Neither is automatically right or wrong — it’s the intent and impact that matter. What breaks relationships isn’t difference, but the refusal to understand each other’s language of coping. Space without abandonment, expression without attack — that’s the work.
2025-07-03 10:08:40
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lemlem :
I’m watching this video on loop because we need to boost content like this. There are too many shrill and angry voices on the internet. Quiet, calm, measured takes are much needed at this time
2025-07-02 12:22:38
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Pure Tara Nutrition :
Men are not broken versions of women, and women are not minature men🌸
2025-07-02 14:47:28
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Evedels💝💝 :
My husband does he's silent and gentle very calm. At the initial stage of our marriage,I thought he was insensitive but I was wrong. That's his own way of processing his emotions and he always comes with appropriate solutions.
2025-07-02 12:17:28
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Tara Munroe :
My question is, are men like this as a result of nature? Or nurture? Because as children, both boys and girls of given the space and opportunity will talk abt their feelings when they are experiencing complex things at a young age. They both cry, they both benefit from a hug and encouragement…I think I agree with what ur saying but is it that men are inherently different from birth? Or are they this way as a result of nurture..
2025-07-02 17:19:28
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ว่านว่าน | Manita :
I watched the whole video and somehow something in my brain clicked. Things are making more sense
2025-07-02 11:52:47
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Hedone :
This is all valid, but it is an important to remember that women and partners are not mind readers and cannot be expected to be. Processing in silence is fine but he still has to communicate to his partner that that is what he needs and then come back to her in a connected way when he has finished that process.
2025-07-02 14:29:30
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epops :
She's looking for solution outside and he's looking for solution inside. Both approaches are needed. Man and woman are like two polarities that can't exist without one another.
2025-07-03 13:13:41
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markiyadi797 :
Dear men and women, please listen carefully to this message.
2025-07-22 16:42:09
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Iman :
This is how I cope/process and it is also why am single😂😂...When I finally meet someone that understands this maybe I will get married.
2025-07-28 09:19:31
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VIATU GENTS 〰️👞 :
As a woman , I use both methods . Some issues I talk , some issues (most) i process them internally. I think that's what everyone should do. As a man , sometimes u can talk bcz everyone at some point needs sb to lean on .
2025-07-04 22:31:52
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Marie_Cake :
Oh for gods sake, this isn’t a gender thing. Lots of women internalise as well, lots of men need to talk through their problems. People deal with things differently. The issue is not communicating what’s happen. You can easily just say ‘I need to work through this myself and then talk to you’
2025-07-03 10:22:47
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Doll_Phyn :
Is this idea set on stone?? Because what you explained as how men deal with emotions,is how I do ...and am a woman ...I process strong emotions in silence and bury myself in work and somehow I get clarity off it...
2025-07-05 20:32:18
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laurinebae :
The willingness to suffer privately so that others don’t have to
2025-07-04 23:27:05
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Richard Robson :
The thing is, If men started processing their pain in the same way a woman does he would be deemed as weak and needy. and unless he was a gay man he would die lonely with no kids and no life partner. Simply because as much as women say they want a man whose emotional intelligence matches theirs, they couldn't cope with the emotional competition. only space for one drama queen in any relationship
2025-07-04 07:58:28
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sensen :
i wish i was a woman... life is so much easier as a woman 🥺
2025-07-03 09:45:43
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Syu :
um i kinda - feels like this is supposed to be “how people react with problems” - and not based on any gender. i did realize i used the men’s method more than woman’s. n i know some men use that woman method. it feels awkward when u categorized it like this. am i masculine? 🙂
2025-07-05 20:44:50
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Michèle :
Yeah, but enduring in silence goes too far when a man doesn’t stand up for himself in a situation where his capacity to carry the burden is being exploited. That’s passivity, not stoical.
2025-07-03 22:15:50
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