@diaryofadoula: Ever wonder if big age gaps between your kids reset birth order roles? Turns out they can and it changes everything. Here’s how 4–5+ years between siblings can turn your youngest into a firstborn in disguise. #BirthOrder #FamilyDynamics #ParentingPsychology #diaryofadoula #birthorder Toman, W. (1993). Family Constellation: Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior. Springer Publishing. Stewart, A. E. (2012). Birth Order and Personality: A Meta-Analytic Review. Journal of Individual Psychology, 68(4), 408–424. Paulhus, D. L., Trapnell, P. D., & Chen, D. (1999). Birth order effects on personality and achievement within families. Psychological Science, 10(6), 482–488.
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Fay :
I have a 14 year difference with my younger brother. That boy is an only child.
2025-07-08 17:23:05
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yuki :
ah this is why I am neglected but also act like a first born daughter 😂
2025-07-08 08:17:04
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Jadah Bryant :
Me and my siblings are all 7 years apart except for the youngest me and him are 19 years apart
2025-08-29 14:52:39
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Jaime :
My older siblings were definitely closer to parental figures or a semi-cool aunt/uncle than siblings. They're 14 years older than me. There's less of an age difference btwn me and my oldest 3 niece/nephews
2025-08-30 06:21:33
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Mackenzie :
Is this... Bad? Good? My husband and I want to start having kids but we're both actual only children so idk 😂😭 seems handy have 4 years between kids, get them into school...
2025-08-29 16:54:58
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vampirechick15 :
so if you WANT first born attitude in all our kids. just have them 5+ years apart, gotcha.
2025-07-08 15:48:47
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veronicatamai :
THANK YOU bc im tired of being invalidated and told I had it easier 😭😭
2025-07-08 10:53:41
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Sami 🇦🇺🦘 :
There’s 12 and half years between me and my younger brother. He’s an only child with 3 parents.
2025-07-08 23:17:29
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Aja :
Exception. If you are so much older you start also parenting the younger sibling aka 10+ years
2025-07-08 09:46:55
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j31_jxb :
1986, 1988, 1993 and me in 2006… siblings wonder why I’m not very close with them 🤡
2025-07-08 11:09:11
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Kay Lewis :
There’s a 19 year age gap between me and my little brother… he’s definitely my son.
2025-07-09 07:03:27
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thatdopeblacktherapist :
Makes sense as the baby with a six year gap. I always ask who really is the little sister here.
2025-08-28 16:23:58
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LuminousRah :
Whew finally I feel seen. 13 year gap I’m the younger sibling but act like the older one but snappy like the little sister 😂 we also didn’t grow up together. So I’m like an only child as well. Ppl can’t believe I have a sister by my mom and 3 younger ones by my father over 14 years apart from the oldest little sister. I’ve been confused.
2025-08-28 17:18:40
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H♈ :
Me and my siblings were born in 1997, 2000, 2014, and 2016 - can confirm, we've definitely grown up as two sets of two instead of one set of four siblings. The younger two barely even recognize us as their older siblings because of the massive age gaps and not having lived with us, so we're really more like an aunt and uncle to them. Also it's really interesting to explain to people that I'm the oldest of four but I really only grew up as the oldest of two which is a MASSIVELY different experience.
2025-07-08 07:53:56
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Janne ✨️ :
I am 22 and my brother was just born last month...I wonder who else have 22 years age gap with their siblings 🤔
2025-07-08 11:05:07
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morgan :
My kids are 11, 8 and currently 32 weeks pregnant 😩
2025-08-28 15:19:06
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methuselahsbussy :
yes!! my sister is 7 years younger and her childhood was SO different then mine
2025-07-08 02:01:06
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vkdep1900 :
There are NINETEEN YEARS between my dad and his youngest brother. crazy.
2025-07-07 23:58:07
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layersof_jenn :
How about siblings 5 years apart? Is that considered two firstborns 🤔
2025-07-16 22:36:38
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Shaylyn🧿 :
My brother is 9 years older than me and my sister is 8 years younger than me- I have ALWAYS said that I’m the oldest, middle and baby all at the same time lol
2025-07-08 02:01:31
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andradelady :
I'm 47, my little brother is 44 and our little sister is 26, she definitely had the only child experience and my brother and I had a more parental role. she's still our sister but she's also one of the kids
2025-07-08 01:59:42
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_amyzzle_ :
me > 35, sis > 34, the sibs I never lived with: step bro > 30, half bro > 20, half sis > 12. So you're telling me my Dad raised 4 'first borns' and the little sis I grew up with really still is the youngest child 🤭
2025-08-15 23:38:10
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demii :
my mom had my eldest sister at 20 and after four more kids had me at 40, after a week of me being out of the hospital she just stopped saying i was her sibling bc ppl wouldn’t believe her lol. when i was 8 she had her first and only kid, she definitely feels more like a sibling to me haha
2025-08-27 19:10:19
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charitynyirenda.1 :
Also spending a lot of time away from your siblings in your formative years. I feel like an only child, only met my siblings on school holidays since 4th grade
2025-07-08 22:17:55
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mol 🪩 | PhD & pure vibes :
10 years gap: I had 10 years of only child, 10 years of sibling, now my brother has had 10 years of only child since I left home, bizarre dynamic but we are more pals than siblings for sure
2025-07-08 08:37:54
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