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Lil :
No because how is it “ waiting until marriage” if you get married at 19 😐
2025-07-10 15:10:52
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Gem :
And that divorce is bad or a sin! It’s a double whammy
2025-07-09 22:06:21
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girl.on.a.trike :
Purity culture is so toxic. It ruined so much for me. Lies. Waiting until marriage just trapped me.
2025-07-10 20:50:10
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345iljc :
I know lots of Christian couples who didn’t sin, dated for 2+ years before marriage and have healthy relationships 🥺
2025-07-10 21:17:02
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neur0detergent_ :
They also preach that Christ needs to be the center of the relationship (ie you don’t need to have anything in common as long as you both consider yourselves Christian) which leaves a lot of women in one sided, unhappy marriages
2025-07-10 09:04:04
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thinkerpablo :
100% saw so many young women settle for terrible men just because they needed a partner who “followed god”…
2025-07-09 21:46:37
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Shelby Renee :
And they get mad at you if you take your time and build a solid foundation and don’t rush into marriage. True story.
2025-07-10 03:08:02
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Jeffy Jo :
Not my church. They make us go to premarital counseling. Also not rush the wedding. And encourages counseling, and therapy outside the church..
2025-07-10 14:04:30
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⋆｡˚꒰ঌ Rènaee ໒꒱˚｡⋆ :
yepp, my dad's been married 3 times now and on the verge of a 3rd divorce, all because he wanted his pastor dad's approval🙃
2025-07-10 03:29:19
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Danielle 🤙🏽 :
This. Both friends of mine married quick and divorced after 2-3yrs. Toxic relationships
2025-07-10 00:20:09
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directioner.as.always :
Explains why my parents got married young and now one of them regrets it
2025-07-10 02:02:14
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KAYY :
*unhealthy and wrong advice and bad leaders and friends teach you that. The right church friends and pastors will send you through pre marital counseling and give you sound dating advice. But being in tune with the HS will actually help… a lot
2025-07-11 06:39:43
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ren :
People get married so young acting like they are pure bc they waited till marriage yet they’re only 20
2025-07-11 15:47:43
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Mikayla.inbetween :
Yep.. then the aftermath is just as terrible that lead to trauma, divorce, and kid. And have to navigate through that if that’s the case.
2025-07-09 21:23:26
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Shiny_sideup :
So true. My husband and I got married at 20. While we have been married 33 years it took a long time before we actually had a healthy relationship and it was no thanks to the church but thanks to a non Christian therapist.
2025-07-09 21:57:42
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Chloe Charisse 🦋🪷🌙✨ :
This. Married at 21 years old and spent 8 years with a narcissistic, and now divorced after my deconstruction 😭 if I wasn’t raised evangelical and in purity culture I would’ve 100% not rushed to get married
2025-07-10 03:01:24
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hollyrambles :
As a Christian, can confirm this is accurate.
2025-07-11 06:49:09
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Benjamin McAuley :
"Christian dating" is not a biblical concept.
2025-07-12 21:22:29
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>^•^< :
A Christian relationship is automatically unhealthy because it teaches the woman that she’s not equal with her husband. Literally tells her she’s less than him. F that.
2025-07-10 19:52:14
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Cait :
Yep! I went to a Christian college & we had this horrible thing called “ring by spring”. So basically you get proposed to/you propose by the spring of your senior year. I went to a lot of weddings the first 1-3 yrs post graduation
2025-07-10 09:37:51
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Impanickingsendhelp :
I think it’s becoming a very popular opinion
2025-07-10 00:29:12
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elisabethfung2 :
It’s so true. That’s what happened for my marriage and sadly I really believed we would be rewarded with a wonderful relationship but we ended up immature, unprepared and incompatible. The worst part is the lack of consent and male entitlement.
2025-07-10 12:08:39
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Kirbwithfeet :
Yeah I once read the first few pages of a Christian dating book out of curiosity the messaging was basically “if you’re not dating to get married you’re wasting your time” and that’s such a horrible message.
2025-07-10 12:49:52
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lacapricorniaa :
Yup, and hole only digs deeper. Rush into marriage to avoid sin, “be fruitful and multiply”, no divorce.
2025-07-11 00:21:40
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julz :
In general the whole purity culture behind religion has perplexed me. I understand there's some passages about marriage as a covenant, but those times marriages were voided after not consumating, and super old traditions of interpretations. I think its odd they shame natural and biological feelings all humans feel....?
2025-07-09 21:07:07
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