Drew Daniels
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Friday 11 July 2025 00:11:48 GMT
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Ainslie Taylor :
You can’t have a healthy relationship with people like this. I have learned this the hard way.
2025-07-11 10:44:41
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Pixieamazon :
"I'm exhausted from constantly having to tiptoe around adults who are fully capable of learning to communicate and hold space for their partner’s emotions — yet refuse to do so. Avoidant behavior isn’t just frustrating, it’s emotionally draining, immature, and deeply selfish. I shouldn’t have to carry the full weight of emotional responsibility in a relationship. It feels less like a partnership and more like raising a grown child. If people who avoid connection and accountability aren’t willing to grow, they should just date each other and stop wasting the time of those of us who actually want a healthy, reciprocal relationship."
2025-07-16 19:57:54
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cm15 :
Who cares about what avoidants are thinking! Avoidance is abusive. The longer it goes, the more abuse. It is not on the victim to understand the abusers feelings or pov. It’s on the avoidant to understand themself and fix their own issues so they can function as an equal emotional partner. If they can’t/wont do that, then no amount of understanding on the part of the victim will matter. But repeatedly telling victims that it is THEIR role to understand and work on it, simply gaslights and victimizes them even more and encourages them to stay in an unhealthy relationship by making it THEIR job to fix things. The thing is, avoidants’ abuse CAUSES anxious attachment from even healthy partners. Staying isn’t a healthy choice, but since avoidant abuse is hard to identify and prove, even to oneself, even healthy people often stay way longer than they would if the abuse was overt.
2025-07-16 13:12:15
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Sydney Lackey :
Then why when they regulate they’re like omg I would love to do that for you and be better, then pretend they do the work yet, show up with a big fat “F” at the test that is the opportunity to prove the work is being done.
2025-09-09 01:31:20
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🏳️🌈Helene Jones 🇨🇦 🧡 :
That’s their problem. I’m done trying to raise adults
2025-07-16 16:55:59
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Januaryspade 🇨🇦 :
Ironic how their fears are reinforced by their strategy .
2025-07-12 13:32:58
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Heather McKenzie475 :
I gave my husband a list of three boundaries that I need if we were to move on after infidelity, and he basically construed that as demands. Like, no… these are my limits. You don’t have to abide by them, but that means I’m gone.
2025-07-11 01:49:47
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Sleeping Bees Flower Farm :
Oh my god yes! My husband is the avoidant and he acts like a judge and prosecutor. I’m presenting my case (my feelings) and he decides if they’re valid. It’s so exhausting.
2025-07-19 07:41:10
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Caroline Holden Boudreau :
After decades of dancing around language, I’m over walking on eggshells. My feelings are just as valid but I’m the one who has to sacrifice that. So over it.
2025-07-13 19:15:52
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Jemma Behan :
this 🥺
2025-09-22 19:44:14
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Zamonia :
I do understand them but there must be a solution to hold em accountable
2025-07-12 01:01:42
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Elizabeth Simcha Grace 🌻 :
Ok. How can they stop doing this please? I’m so tired.
2025-07-12 16:16:30
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smee :
I keep getting told that I need to self soothe. Evidently, my avoidant partner is never going to change.
2025-07-15 01:52:46
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fuller :
TELL THE AVOIDANT THIS, NOT ME. 😂😂🤬🤬
2025-07-13 15:03:15
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MaYa👸🏽 :
He always said I'm manipulative and always guilt trip him .. didn't understand how
2025-07-11 07:01:58
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EntirelyErica :
Well I told him to love me or leave me . I’m so tired of crying .
2025-07-12 04:03:39
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Kate Lally :
This is a great way to say it. So good
2025-08-31 00:48:04
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Paigececils :
That is not my problem!
2025-07-19 15:32:41
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Leighanne :
I need them to understand this. I know already
2025-09-05 03:48:55
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Shiv the Author :
why does not one address them directly and tell them to change.
2025-08-25 00:57:54
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Lauren :
Idk I feel like "avoidants" are just emotionally immature. We are adults and people should not have to tip toe or find a million ways to get through to someone who should care about their partner's feelings too. It's exhausting
2025-07-31 13:09:03
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stephanie :
why is my avoidant partner so difficult to have a deep conversation with compared to him having it with his friends? he has no issues when his friends go to him with their personal problems.
2025-07-26 06:58:20
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OldJiggle :
Yeah well he’s not a good enough partner for me. I am just waiting until our kids are out of the house.
2025-07-20 16:36:06
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mellowjellofellow :
Doesn't help I (👋the anxious attached 👋) am a literal lawyer 😆...
2025-08-05 11:05:36
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