@healingbythenumbers_: Two years ago today, I wrote, recorded, and shared a poem called "How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship." I’d been gone less than 3 months, and I still struggled to call what I’d been through abuse. That video was a turning point in my healing — not just taking ownership of that word, but choosing to share (with my 22 followers, all people I knew) a glimpse of what had really happened. And now I have Healing by the Numbers — A space where I speak honestly about the messiness, fear, confusion, anger, pride, grief, and relief of leaving abuse behind. On the two-year anniversary of one of the scariest and most honest moments of my life… Thank you for being here. And if any part of my story resonates with you — you are not alone. 💛 ... #healingbythenumbers #abuserecovery #emotionalabuseawareness #HealingJourney #traumasurvivor
Dr. Ruth | That Was Abuse
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Wednesday 16 July 2025 17:30:17 GMT
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FaliciaMarie :
I hope you feel my heart hugging yours. I realize that sounds creepy from a random person but I got out, too. I hear you. Thank you for sharing. You’re so brave.
2026-01-27 11:21:32
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🍄🟫🌻Moss-shroom🌻🍄🟫 :
I haven’t even finished listening to all of this and so far it’s exactly correct and exactly what I did
2025-07-16 21:50:57
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Sica :
feeling guilty for leaving my ex confused the heck out of me for years afterwards. at one point I told myself I felt bad because he was still a "good man"... but a good man doesn't choke you out and hit you and do all the things he did
2025-08-30 19:46:14
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im.that.goth.bitch :
As someone who got out of a 5 year one… it fits so well…
2025-07-16 21:37:04
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Suzette_Renee :
When you wish it was all just over.
2025-09-05 14:10:24
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Mikalah Marie 🩷 :
I love your videos. Thank you for using your platform to help inform others who have been through what we’ve been through
2025-09-04 16:35:42
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Willow :
you are so strong
2025-08-09 03:29:19
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Christina :
thank you for being a guiding light to others who have been in this situation. you're helping women survive and thrive.
2025-09-13 15:49:18
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ChairHair 🍉 7️⃣ :
this. is. exactly. how it is 🖤
2025-09-06 21:25:40
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Estee Maloy :
Your videos showed up on my feed as I was struggling to extract myself from a volatile relationship. While I wasn't beaten, I was made smaller. Your videos confirmed that I needed to leave for my health and sanity. Thank you friend.
2025-08-14 18:25:45
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Queen buttbutt :
this is perfect!
2025-08-14 13:53:37
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Jessie :
This is the most relatable one yet. I didn't see your original post but I needed to hear it today. I'm 3 weeks out, going to court for the PPO next Thursday. I need the strength.
2025-09-05 12:07:48
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Heather Smith :
I’m so happy you are sharing. My story is so similar.
2025-09-05 23:42:03
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The Falconry Experience :
Everything I went thru when I left. The hardest part was remembering who I was and that it was ok to be that person again
2025-09-06 01:50:01
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sm2teach76 :
That resonated. I so remember
2025-09-14 23:45:00
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Jimbo :
I hope you message reaches far to others that need to be seen, I am very fortunate to hear stories of people overcoming others abuse
2025-08-28 03:04:34
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Bess :
Very good
2025-08-13 01:36:54
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Lindsey Parker :
I came across your videos, and I decided I was going to go all the way back to the beginning of your page.as a survivor myself. I think one of the most telling things in this video is how much healthier you look now compared to then. Perpetrators literally suck the life out of us. You look much healthier and full of life. I can absolutely relate to the poem.
2026-05-14 21:03:27
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. :
When I decided to leave I cry...but it was happiness tears. I planned during 1 month. Took my things carefully even my cats. That Sunday morning while he was sleeping I just left. I got 100 pounds out of my back. I just told him I can't stay any longer is my life or this relationship
2026-07-14 01:13:59
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tinkergnomad 🏳️🌈💜🆘❌🌀 :
😭😭😭
2025-08-13 22:22:48
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