@bayavoce: “I’m sorry” is probably the phrase we use the most to avoid really feeling what’s happening between us. When your partner says sorry just to end the fight, it doesn’t land. It actually makes things worse because it skips over what really matters: the pain underneath. An apology isn’t about saying the right words as fast as possible. It’s about showing you see the hurt and are willing to sit with it even if it’s uncomfortable for you because your partner's pain matters. Next time you catch yourself rushing to say sorry, pause and ask, am I trying to heal this, or just shut it down? #relationships #communication #healing
I love most of your message, but I disagree that we say sorry just to make it go away. Some of us say sorry because we truly feel bad and want to show empathy and sorrow for the consequences we caused. Until now, we hadn’t been taught any differently.
2025-07-28 18:58:02
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Cyphmen !! 🕸️🧶 :
What else would you say when you show up late??
2025-07-27 16:53:09
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Twilight :
so what do we say?
2025-07-27 12:53:41
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salvacion :
so , I'm sorry , I will do better 🥰 is it ok with that
2025-07-19 03:17:32
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ROKONKAMI :
i actually broke up with mah x cuz they were quick to apologize knowingly they're clueless abt the effects of their action :'))))
2025-07-30 12:58:10
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Blaq_Icing :
DON'T TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE'S SAYING.. 🤭 Trust me, I'm more confused as u are.. 😭😂
2025-07-30 18:49:15
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yaomega :
Sorry is one of the words I hate so much
2025-07-21 10:50:58
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Donald MW :
so how should we say sorry then??
2025-07-23 10:27:48
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Donk Blankenstein :
Why can’t I be sorry up front, then when I have more information, I can repair properly?
2025-07-18 01:54:28
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DavidL :
Another incredibly accurate capture of how our words, even with a good intention can make things worse. Perhaps it’s better to say I’m sorry and ask what you can do to help your partner feel better. Or just drop I’m sorry and replace with “I’ve hurt you. Please tell me how so I can help?”
2025-07-18 01:55:13
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utatawakhoo :
i thought we’d get a solution
2025-07-30 17:06:49
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Aden A748 :
exactly, when I am extremely late, I don't say I'm sorry for that reason.
2025-07-29 18:11:00
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Rjy.Glvz :
Instead of saying sorry. Use, thank you for waiting, work is intense and be sure be gentle with the voice.
2025-08-02 14:19:38
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78th :
So what do I say instead???
2025-07-22 07:01:38
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Cayla ✮ :
i stopped saying sorry unless i absolutely mean it. i also don’t take apologies from others lightly like i used to because most times they do it again.
2025-08-20 16:43:20
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Margaret Ellis :
Actions first! ❤️
2025-08-27 10:25:31
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Thoriso :
That’s why I told my partner do not apologize unless you understand why it is that I’m angry knowing doesn’t mean you understand you need to show that you understand
2025-07-24 08:26:31
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BlazinDeals :
just leave … better to do it first and feel like a winner. Even if you lose. You still win.
2025-07-21 09:15:03
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sephiroth🪽 :
never viewed saying sorry like this because I was raised to believe saying sorry is the first step to taking accountability and recognize what you did wrong
2025-08-29 14:33:13
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Ꭶ程 :
What if the partner tend to forget alot and easy things like some convo that he/she done wrong and says wont do it again but does it again because she forgotten it but doesnt mean to do it. Or like doesnt understand he/she’s text even if it is explained easy way
2025-08-11 19:37:10
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Wowie :
I really hate when my parter says sorry and I can feel the eye roll. That’s so wrong, but I don’t really quite get what’s wrong with saying you’re sorry that you’re late. Maybe also acknowledge that I understand if they’re frustrated with me? But overall, I don’t understand the problem with it.
2025-08-28 17:55:19
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SutureSelf :
I show people I am sorry. Telling them sorry is only for the ego, not for the person.
2025-08-28 02:05:17
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Erika Palmer :
Probably the best take on “sorry” I’ve heard. ❤️👌
2025-08-26 19:07:59
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Sagacious :
the word you said I never say it. no longer has any meaning to it and there are better words out there 😎
2025-08-29 11:29:41
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Nina :
This is really eye opening! My bf and I both do this sometimes and it really does feel different. I will definitely be asking myself this question
2025-07-24 04:43:21
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