The Indomitable Blackman
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Big Baby Ja :
My partner has trouble with the follow through. The kids start screaming and crying and it stresses my her out. Her being a stay at home parent while I’m at work makes it harder for me to support her when I’m not home.
2025-07-18 21:11:59
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Jennifer Lamberts :
I have two autistic kiddos and the “first ___ then ___” has been a huge game changer. Even kids with some learning or social issues do well with this one and it’s helped me so much
2025-07-20 08:40:33
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Jules :
Love this
2025-07-24 21:53:43
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Cook4TheCause :
My son’s dad is like this w/ him at his house 😔. At my/our house we set rotating timers (we both have pretty severe adhd). 30 minutes of reading and 10 minutes of chores earns 1 hr of screen time. Sometimes he reads for an hour and does 20 minutes of chores for 2 hrs screen time (always his choice). The precedent is set and the timer is what’s telling him to move on to the next thing. I haven’t raised my voice once since we implemented this
2025-07-21 06:36:06
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nicoleashley029aj85 :
Sounds just like me 😞
2025-07-21 13:54:50
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johnny_hamburders :
I try to do this with my 5yr old twins. Hell…I do this with myself at night when I finally have time to myself. “First dishes, then gaming” 😂
2025-07-18 20:43:19
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Coya Meadows :
I do it with my oldest he has a curfew for his phone at night and he cannot get it back to all of his chores are done in the morning, and he has a timer on his phone to remind him to recheck his chores
2025-07-18 19:03:39
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I am Dream Keeper :
Thank you dad!!! I be yelling too much and feel like shi after
2025-07-18 20:43:42
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SunnyArtSpot :
Unrelated but can we get your hair care routine cuz. 👀❤️
2025-07-21 06:08:29
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Santiago Cervantes :
You are a king man! Thank you!
2025-07-18 19:27:44
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The Real “Papa Eclipse” :
Literally my mother when it comes to my son.
2025-07-19 13:45:49
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Only 4 Edutainment :
I would also add expect an expectation of limiting gaming to a certain time frame and chores in a certain time frame. If they know what’s expected ahead of time natural consequences can be enforced without punishment
2025-07-22 21:51:01
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JJ :
Yes, and be consistent with it, which, to be fair, is the hardest part, but if you aren't, they'll figure out quickly how to manipulate the situation.
2025-07-18 19:46:31
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Kwink415 :
This exact method works with everything that has to do with raising kids...be consistent with it and it will work
2025-07-23 13:54:33
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user4425677128383 :
Thank you for this actual real life practical advice
2025-07-21 16:50:44
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TimorousBeastie :
Keeping this in my back pocket for when my daughter is older. Thank you!
2025-07-18 17:27:59
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Christen :
Thank you for these tips!
2025-07-22 17:07:46
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Jake :
Good information. there is a reason why games are so addictive.
2025-07-19 00:55:04
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Tricia :
setting clear expectations and guidelines are huge helps as well! I asked my kids how can I help them remember their tasks and follow our family rules, and they said timers, set reminders (like on Google home) and writing it down in a visible place! We worked it out together and it made a huge difference!
2025-07-19 02:31:49
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AkinDraw :
I regret the day I ever got a tablet. But my kid is all alone and lonely. I can’t have more kids. He kept asking for a sibling. I assumed out would help. But he’s not addicted to it. He just wants it at tunes I don’t think he should have it. He feels like if it’s his it should never be removed.
2025-07-19 21:23:09
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Karim Shalon :
When my oldest started doing that I was like “first we’re doing this THEN you can have the iPad” and I turn on the locked downtime too
2025-07-18 18:50:40
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Judy Wolf McGee :
This is very helpful. I have a 9 y/o grandson who is on the autism spectrum and suffers from ADHD. I find that giving him fair warning and setting a timer for when it’s time to turn off YouTube or gaming is very helpful. I tell him I’m setting a timer and when the timer goes off, he turns off the TV and console.
2025-07-21 02:55:22
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Elizabeth Spaner :
Thank you. This is so helpful.
2025-07-19 02:22:42
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Victoria licensed therapist :
on point! connection so important
2025-07-21 15:20:07
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🖤💚Wildwood Witch💚🖤 :
Your content (along with a LOT of self reflection, honest communication, and a few good books) have actively helped me grow as a parent and a person. Thank you. 🙏❤️
2025-07-19 15:43:54
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