@bayavoce: If your partner only seems to come close when you pull away, it’s not about you, it’s about their nervous system trying to keep them safe. For some people, closeness feels like a trap because early love came with conditions, unpredictability, or pain. So they chase both distance and connection on their own terms, where they can control the risk. It’s a painful cycle, longing mixed with fear, that leaves both people stuck wondering why closeness feels so hard. You can hold space for their fear without losing sight of your need for steady love. Sometimes love is there, but it’s tangled up in a nervous system wired for threat. At some point, one of you has to ask: can we learn to stay together inside the discomfort? Or is it time to protect your heart with real boundaries? #relationships #intimacy #healing