Torie | Therapist + Coach
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itstookate🧿 :
Mel Robbins isn’t trauma informed. She is NOT someone to learn from.
2025-07-27 12:45:56
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dee :
mel robbin’s needs to be stopped bc the “let them” is making people insufferable 🤣
2025-07-27 12:49:56
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Natalie Ward :
PREACH 👏 👏 👏
2025-08-22 00:37:35
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Bubblegum_and_Bandaids :
Her “let them” theory was used by my dad/stepmom to perpetuate abuse in our family. They love Mel Robbins. I find everything about her so toxic.
2025-07-26 16:09:58
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Amanda 🆘️🇺🇲🏳️🌈 :
Ive been the adult for over 30 years. Im 37. Im done being the adult in this relationship
2025-07-26 15:48:02
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Jess :
I have so much empathy that’s why I feel so guilty because I give others more consideration than they do me. I try to understand all sides of something if I can.
2025-08-24 17:57:54
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Anika :
ive had to be the adult since I was a kid so no thank you.
2025-07-26 17:25:56
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maddances :
my parents use my empathy to manipulate me…
2025-07-27 15:50:35
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Sassy Okie :
Baby I’ve been the adult since i was 14…I’m disappointed she said that.
2025-08-03 02:34:22
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sarah :
I really needed to hear this today…
2025-08-12 20:29:25
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Kay 💜🇺🇸🏳️🌈 :
My therapist told me (in discussion about my toxic sister & the circumstances that may have led to her issues), it's not bad to want to understand what may be causing her behavior, but the bottom line is her behavior is still harming you and that needs to be addressed. Cause or intention does not excuse effect. Which was revolutionary thinking for me at the time. 🤯
2025-07-29 14:00:18
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Nickel :
When I heard her say that I was honestly so offended 🙃 I was like… I’ve given her nothing but empathy!!! No more!! It’s enabling her at this point and she’s using it against me. I, too, have a narcissistic mother.
2025-08-31 15:49:51
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Annie :
Yep, I spent decades making a litany of excuses and reasons for my mother’s behavior because I was trying to understand and empathize. But it didn’t matter why she did those things—it mattered that she continued to hurt me. I let her move in and live with my family for a year. It was a year of reliving all the hurts from childhood because she was still treating me the same way and doing the same things and I still kept trying to help her and care for her in all the ways she never cared for me. In the end I asked her to move out. I felt used. And now I’m the bad guy 🙄
2025-07-27 14:51:01
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allie :
i love how you call your clients/the audience “cycle breakers”- because it’s so true!
2025-07-28 18:37:00
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Annie :
Totally agree. “Being an adult” to them means having no boundaries and taking responsibility for other’s actions. They need to get their adult definition right.
2025-07-26 15:49:44
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cami_lla89 :
Yess!!!! What is worst is that one of our problem is that we had to be the adult the entire time!!
2025-08-29 23:08:50
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opaquepurpul :
Yes! Normal relationship skills and conflict resolution skills rarely work with emotionally immature or narcissistic parents (people).
2025-07-26 17:02:03
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Melanie Vesey ❌ :
I’ve been the adult to my parents the whole time. I’m tired.
2025-07-28 13:58:35
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Keylee :
Thank you!! As someone with CPTSD & Acute PTSD who has been through trauma therapy I've been practically yelling this at my friends since Mel has went viral. 90% of what she preaches is the opposite of everything I learned in therapy, truly v dangerous!!
2025-07-27 10:49:51
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Leslie :
I only started to have a healthy view of my relationship with my parents when I stopped trying to empathize with them. They were both narcissist and nothing that they did was logical or healthy for their children. These actions do not deserve empathy.
2025-07-26 16:31:57
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Jacqueline :
Mel Robbin’s advice is it meant for middle/upper middle class non-marginalized white people who have never had trauma in their life
2025-07-27 13:01:22
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Lara :
“This is where you get your be the adult” as if we haven’t had to be the adult since we were just babies.
2025-08-05 22:52:41
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Oracle :
I really hope people come around on Mel Robbins, she’s not it
2025-07-26 20:04:37
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Saroo :
i told my narc mom exactly why i dont want her in my life, held a mirror right to her face and then walked away and left no crumbs. it was so healing to put all of her own shame and guilt back into her bowl. i will never eat that shit again. healthy anger, healthy reclamation, truth telling, all things we need to do to heal. not ignoring the issues and forgiving and forgetting. empathy towards myself, my inner child, the wounded parts, thats what is actually healing. standing up for the parts of yourself that never got a voice is whats healing
2025-08-14 01:54:41
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brea 🎙️ bloomera podcast :
LOVE your take 👏👏👏 I’d love to chat with you about this on my podcast - it’s currently ranked in the top 3% globally. Lemme know if you’re interested
2025-07-28 00:53:10
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