@llove_lola27: I was planning a dream trip to Europe… he was planning to take care of his dying mom. Now he’s mad I didn’t drop everything to help. Am I heartless or just passport focused? ✈️💔 #AITAH #ToxicLove #FamilyDrama #TravelVsTrauma #WithLoveLola #YouDecide
Even if she isn’t faking, that’s his mother and her going to see her family doesn’t make her selfish. None of us are promised tomorrow so she shouldn’t put of seeing her family to wait this out for who knows how long.
2025-07-30 04:00:49
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MommaGreywolf1992 :
There's a part two to this btw.
2025-07-30 12:43:17
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Gabriela :
Poor OP.
He called her selfish after she's sacrificing so much of her time, energy and life for HIS mother!
2025-07-30 08:35:25
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Its_Ash :
“Would you if your mom was sick” be honest and say “if my mom told me she were sick, she’d actually be sick”
2025-09-01 00:00:50
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MamabearNC :
Don’t spend another minute helping until bf and husband have a meeting with her Dr.
2025-07-30 15:29:31
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Mixchick1020 :
I’m sorry even if Tanya was sick why would she be selfish for going to visit her own mother that she hasn’t seen in over a year? Liam would be there with David to take care of his mom! NTA she isn’t selfish for visiting her mom either way
2025-07-30 04:51:33
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campo_de_mantequilla :
He wants you to neglect your mom for his? Like… bfr
2025-07-30 06:32:22
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Nvnvmnvm :
I don’t think OP is the ah either. I know she there’s no solid proof her mil is lying, but how could her man expect her to not see her own mother. He then has the audacity to give her a “what if” scenario about himself?? So not the same. He’s weird
2025-07-30 04:23:33
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shortcakemel :
Forget this, there is no way she is actually sick…I’d go to Europe
2025-07-30 03:49:04
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ilka :
theyre all expecting way toooo much of op. yes, she's the gf but shes not the wife, she's not family
2025-07-30 05:05:29
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Lisa Lujan891 :
NTA
2025-08-13 01:57:21
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Patricia Young :
Be a good person and learn whatever lessons she is teaching you
2025-08-03 05:41:56
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Ashley Torres :
I would've said your mother is NOT MY MOM I'm leaving to go see MY MOM though bye ✌🏽
2025-07-30 09:52:01
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angellgauna :
I would never put off seeing my mother, especially if it’s unclear if the mother is really sick or just making it up to keep the son’s attention. He’s a grown man and able to stick around for HIS mom. While you visit your mother in Europe.
2025-08-04 20:54:26
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Nichole Ayling :
Why is he allowed to doat on his mother and waste her time and she can’t even go visit hers?
2025-07-30 17:31:17
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ms.mollymetz :
having cancer myself , chemo is rarely post poned
2025-08-07 23:00:17
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UnionThuggery :
He's expecting wifely duties from a girlfriend. She needs to set down boundaries now before this gets worse.
2025-07-30 16:10:12
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S J :
Him comparing HIMSELF dying and her caring for him to his mom fake-dying is totally unfair. Set boundaries. If she wants them to continue to disrupt their lives like this, then they need to be provided solid medical evidence of her ailments. If the bf can’t have her back on this, then he’s not the one.
2025-08-04 07:18:47
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Quee Zee :
Nope
2025-07-31 02:38:41
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Lovey the Nurse :
Even if she is sick, OP can go see her mom whom she hasn’t seen in a year
2025-07-30 11:21:42
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Dolly1773 :
No, going to see your mom is not selfish absolutely not. And the boyfriend should understand as well…..
2025-08-01 19:11:50
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Laurbebuggingback :
Choosing to join this family is a choice
2025-07-31 14:43:27
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JayLynn P. :
The key detail tho, that’s not even her MIL. There is no familial obligation to help her. And she’s been nothing but rude the whole time while controdicting herself. NTA, if OP wants to stay in the relationship, stay for 1 appointment. Don’t let her send op away. Stick around and actually SEE what the heck is happening
2025-07-30 15:55:10
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Cri🇲🇽🇺🇸 :
Not married and she helping take her of his mom and she is self for wanting to see her mom. Red flag for him
2025-08-01 14:49:25
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Gigi :
Sounds like my mother in law
2025-07-30 19:49:55
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