@tiffchat: It followed that people were comfortable only with the language of intimacy. Whatever business was done had to be done in that language. The language of “You are not alone.” How else would a person know? The language of intimacy spread. It was meant to be reassuring. But during the same period, in a most upsetting way, real intimacy came to seem to be a kind of affliction. #essay #newyorker #videoessay #writing