Chris Hatfield - Attachment 🧠
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Monday 04 August 2025 18:05:29 GMT
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ᚳᚩᚠᛁᛖᚳᚩ :
what if you think youre both?
2025-09-18 01:04:09
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mindingmyownherd :
what is it if I am both anxious and avoidant? is this even possible?
2025-08-22 11:52:38
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TRaven98 :
I don't have a problem with my avoidant partner needing the space to think about things. I do have a 'problem' with the fact that he never comes back to the topic and talks to me. The topics remain unresolved until the initial problem comes back up and the whole circus starts again.
2025-08-12 11:07:10
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Eric :
unfortunately I'm both I need the validation but I'm afraid to say what I'm feeling.
2025-08-04 22:17:37
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𓇗 𝑺𝒚𝒓𝒖𝒔 𓇗 :
Ive been slowly learning that space is okay, I can give him space and he's not just gonna leave. Its really hard but he always loves me so hard after that space and it makes everything better. Its so difficult but it's worth it
2025-09-14 22:09:47
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gwyles :
no.... i don't want to fix it because im scared you will walk away...I want to fix it because i do not want to sit in it till it feels unresolved and it stays dormant so you start to "fix ' all your problems this way and eventually they explode
2025-08-15 11:08:12
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Regina et al. :
I understand space, but at least have the curtesy to inform your partner that you need space and time.. not just dissappear and silent treatment
2025-09-23 09:01:27
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Brookeackerman1000 :
how is that I'm a mixture of both
2025-08-07 22:31:49
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Jericho :
Put this on their fyp, not mine please
2025-08-14 12:59:36
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Mary Jane :
Can you be anxious and avoidant at the same time?
2025-09-29 05:56:14
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eilenemaclaskey :
THIS IS HELL
2025-09-02 23:32:18
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orazl.o :
How do i go abt talking of things tho? I feel like whenever i do bring something uo it ends up upsetting her and im at the point where i dont want to say anything that bothers me bc i dont want to upset her, but it hurts so bad to do that. I need help to become a better partner for her
2025-08-20 18:35:39
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Airplane✈️ :
I really hope the next time we have a conflict we can handle it better. We've talked in more debt and i hope that was what it took to lay a path. I'm also trying to learn that silence and space isn't bad but it's still hard
2025-08-06 00:24:59
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beezlebubby :
He’s not healing. I get past trauma but he said “there’s no point in dwelling on something that won’t change” “there’s no hope for me” when i questioned things he said “maybe you made me see better of myself 🙃🙃” and i said “exactly, but you don’t now” And he said “because i don’t care to” so no, he’s not healing, he’s accepting it. We were amazing in the beginning but it was like a flip switched. He had never got mad at me, now he’s always mad at me it seems. I’m trying to figure out what’s going on, he’s now ghosting..
2025-09-18 03:21:14
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🄹ake :
how can a avoidant and anxious work together does anyone know 🤕
2025-09-21 08:03:53
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𐔌 📖 𐦯 BYAKUYA ｡ৎ :
This was my relationship, now we’re no longer together. I wish we could’ve fixed us
2025-08-19 15:27:57
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𝔹𝕚𝕟𝕚𝕓𝕚𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕁𝕠 ♋ 2 :
this is exhausting. maybe staying away with avoidants is the best. may my current relationship with avoidant ended soon
2025-09-04 18:50:23
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N :
what should i do then??? im an anxious. he said he loves me but he distance himself after conflict and said he dunno what to say to me. so he being cold and disappear
2025-08-17 06:10:09
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Kay🤎 :
this literally changed my perspective. thank you.
2025-12-25 07:41:26
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Dshook9 :
what if you’re both
2025-10-22 04:24:13
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es24.x :
Is it normal for an avoidant to leave you days without talking to you (I’m an anxious attachment)
2025-09-09 11:44:04
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deyl :
I am so happy I can wait now. I don’t crash out. Just make yourself busy and wait. No problem at all.
2025-08-18 04:06:34
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^3^ :
the thing that bothers me about the avoidant - meeting the anxious party’s needs is literally going to trigger the avoidance’s party fear of intimacy, so doing actions with low level of intimacy will never be enough for an attachment style (anxious) that needs intimacy to even be secure in the relationship. it’s just a bit annoying when the feeling of “i’m not enough” gets triggered…because you’re literally are not doing enough or not even doing it at all. I also feel bad because it seems like anxious party is always willing to get hurt or go through whatever they need to go through to make the avoidant feel loved, seen, appreciated…but for the avoidant, it’s always an hesitation, it’s always a choice.
2025-10-09 07:42:47
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Shiloh :
I genuinely had no idea these were a thing and tbh after learning more about them, everything makes much more sense and makes it feel easier to work on myself
2025-10-10 08:12:53
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D P726🏴 :
this makes so much sense (I'm the anxious). problem is that the avoidant can't / won't accept they are avoidant.
2025-09-23 13:31:01
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