Em | Trauma & Abuse Educator
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Beach622905 :
"Variable ratio reinforcement".highs and lows It works. It's insanely insidious and they know what they're doing.
2025-08-07 11:26:44
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🕊️ai :
not to mention the memory loss that occurs during the abusive cycle.
2025-09-01 09:08:27
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♡ ૮₍ ˃ ⤙ ˂ ₎ა :
and “behaving” is just me not getting upset at anything ever
2025-09-02 10:10:20
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MoxieLake🏳️🌈 :
That bread crumbing fawks you UP!!!
2025-08-31 23:18:57
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M :
It was because he was trying so hard to convince me that it was my fault. So I kept trying to be “better” in hopes that he would stop being cruel to me and start being nice again
2025-08-07 15:48:06
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Lizifrizi :
The worst part of it is that no friends or family understand. It’s the most lonely experience I’ve ever had in my life
2025-08-30 14:11:44
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Adielush :
I remember not wanting to go to sleep (like physically forcing myself not to fall asleep) on the day he was warm and loving to me. I knew I’d wake up to a different person.
2025-08-07 02:32:46
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Amanda Rae :
Similarly, he claimed my “negative behavior” was driving him away, aka, any kind of attempt at calling him out or setting a boundary.
2025-09-01 00:01:44
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psychoglycemic :
This causes the trauma bond which is very hard to break, even when the evidence is overwhelming
2025-08-07 21:03:48
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Stevie1111 :
It is an insidious, addictive, and eventually dangerous abuse cycle.
2025-08-07 15:55:25
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ǝuᴉǝɟɟɐɔ uo ǝuǝɹǝs :
Not to mention the cortisol from fight-or-flight
2025-08-30 20:38:04
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skye 🌿🧚🏼✨ :
for years i wondered “how can i act so he will just be the way he is when he’s happy/kind” then i realized that’s a trauma response 😅
2025-09-06 02:11:21
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S :
Made me feel lucky to be chosen when he wasn’t even worth choosing…i was just waiting for his affection oof 😢
2025-08-07 02:11:09
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emma.datinglife :
My memory is shot too between relationship trauma and childhood trauma 😬
2025-09-13 18:09:52
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ur waifoo :
I remember telling him how jealous I was of his friends bc he was so nice to them and he told me he would be nice to me too if I wasn’t so “disobedient”
2025-08-29 06:57:50
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Allison Mantzas :
It doesn’t need to even necessarily be “cold and cruel”. Sometimes it’s silence and stonewalling after intimacy and love.
2025-09-01 12:56:03
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Mili96 :
Just got out after 25 year DV marriage 😭 now it’s post separation abuse
2025-08-09 23:51:36
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Cassie :
I do not miss this
2025-08-28 21:40:08
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RikkiOnyx :
This was so eye opening for my life. Thank you so much.
2025-08-07 04:34:54
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SamSam✨♍️ :
Ummm so I played this video and he threw a tantrum. Spoke through the whole thing and kept pausing the video. Then he put on his headphones. 😂 I’m in enemy territory 🙃
2025-08-07 04:27:55
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Giselle Burns :
“If you never feel safe or secure, you’re going to keep performing” That hit me in my gut. So concisely and accurately put.
2025-08-30 03:42:50
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No Longer Active. :
I started to see addiction in the same way, and it's helped me to gain control over it. The reward and the highs feel like being tipsy / intoxicated, and then the hangover is all the chaos after.
2025-08-11 19:36:24
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Sunchaser :
I hate him forever
2025-09-27 01:46:32
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ari :
lowkey crying realising my last partner was hellllll abusive lmfao oops no wonder i felt terrified all the time 😭😭
2025-08-24 03:09:19
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steffany.cruz :
this is not just about romantic relationships with someone. mostly parents or relatives.
2025-09-24 13:20:15
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