@chris_hatfield: Anxious Attachment: Avoid Texting Dependency #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousthoughts #attachmentstyle #texting

Chloe Price :

The timing is crazy ._.

nuclear_blonde_nl 🇳🇱 :

No! If someone is texting u for months with these everyday texts. And then pulls back, getting anxious is a normal reaction to their change in behaviour. Ur attached to someone and u got used to a that way of communicating. I see ur point. But its not that black and white always. Certainly not with a dismissive avoidant. And also not with how people are texting nowadays. Getting ghosted is around the corner. And almost everyone is experiencing this. Just a simple text , “chat u later” will not hurt anyone. But hey, thats just my opinion… ❤️

alyssa :

On the phone that I pay for?

Kiora :

"it's not someone else's responsibility to regulate your anxious attachment" PREACH OMG.

abi 🪼 :

I have BPD. They literally DO control my day 😭

UnwaryArtist12 :

Anxious attachment is completely and utterly countered when faced by good communication

Aurora :

“and then he called me out and said that’s dependency…”

Lori :

I hate this about me and I hate seeing how true this is. But it also helps to know I am not alone.

𝒦𝓇𝒾𝓈𝓉𝒾𝓃🦋⃤ :

I only get anxious attachment when I'm in love with avoidants. People with normal communication don't make me spiral.

Alice Brescia Morra🃏 :

true, but while you work on yourself you need to be with someone who cares about how they make you feel, it’s a compromise

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Read to filth within 1 minute

Chiibin :

how do you self regulate then?

RelentlesslyGayWarlock :

Just because we have immediate access to each other doesn't mean we are owed each other's immediate attention. We're busy adults who can't always text back right away, even if it is to say they're busy

Daizy :

it's really just my intense need for patterns and as soon as they're broken I'll overanalyze to the point I'll go crazy cuz I'm 100% convinced there's a deeper reason for change

Gabby Lee :

omg wow timing is insane on this one…

Sam P - R :

The timing of this is insane

FayeEden :

This makes me feel sad and that just shows me how much I still have to work on myself. Truth hurts sometimes.

maria 🦋 :

no because you’re right. two things are true and while they should communicate, I shouldn’t depend my emotions on a text back

Alexis :

did yall watch the whole video?? the spiraling turns to codependency which turns to toxic problems. when you spiral, so does everything else and putting that pressure of keeping you sane on to someone else is when the issue begins

Meaganjainxi :

I have anxious attatchment but I find it rude to not simply tell me your busy, it’s not about anything else, if you care enough about someone you’ll take 30 seconds to send a quick message explaining your busy, but that’s just me

Alitaaa.rose ᥫ᭡🦋 :

Doc P :

"I am in this video and I dont like it"

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Karen from finance 🇺🇸 :

I ask myself to decide “is this a real or perceived abandonment?” and most of the time it’s the latter.

Jr02 :

but what if they go from perfect communication to almost nothing for a while then back to meh communication