@chris_hatfield: Anxious Attachment: Avoid Texting Dependency #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousthoughts #attachmentstyle #texting

Chloe Price :

The timing is crazy ._.

alyssa :

On the phone that I pay for?

Sim :

I was spiralling so badly and then this popped up and just wow my whole body relaxed

nuclear_blonde_nl 🇳🇱 :

No! If someone is texting u for months with these everyday texts. And then pulls back, getting anxious is a normal reaction to their change in behaviour. Ur attached to someone and u got used to a that way of communicating. I see ur point. But its not that black and white always. Certainly not with a dismissive avoidant. And also not with how people are texting nowadays. Getting ghosted is around the corner. And almost everyone is experiencing this. Just a simple text , “chat u later” will not hurt anyone. But hey, thats just my opinion… ❤️

𝒦𝓇𝒾𝓈𝓉𝒾𝓃🦋⃤ :

I only get anxious attachment when I'm in love with avoidants. People with normal communication don't make me spiral.

Kiora :

"it's not someone else's responsibility to regulate your anxious attachment" PREACH OMG.

Lori :

I hate this about me and I hate seeing how true this is. But it also helps to know I am not alone.

UnwaryArtist12 :

Anxious attachment is completely and utterly countered when faced by good communication

RelentlesslyGayWarlock :

Just because we have immediate access to each other doesn't mean we are owed each other's immediate attention. We're busy adults who can't always text back right away, even if it is to say they're busy

Sam P - R :

The timing of this is insane

Alice Brescia Morra🃏 :

true, but while you work on yourself you need to be with someone who cares about how they make you feel, it’s a compromise

Aurora :

“and then he called me out and said that’s dependency…”

maria 🦋 :

no because you’re right. two things are true and while they should communicate, I shouldn’t depend my emotions on a text back

⁺˚⋆｡°✩ 𝙵𝚊𝚎𝙴𝚖𝚒𝚕𝚢 ✩°｡⋆˚⁺ :

Read to filth within 1 minute

Alexis :

did yall watch the whole video?? the spiraling turns to codependency which turns to toxic problems. when you spiral, so does everything else and putting that pressure of keeping you sane on to someone else is when the issue begins

FayeEden :

This makes me feel sad and that just shows me how much I still have to work on myself. Truth hurts sometimes.

Daizy :

it's really just my intense need for patterns and as soon as they're broken I'll overanalyze to the point I'll go crazy cuz I'm 100% convinced there's a deeper reason for change

Chiibin :

how do you self regulate then?

Gabby Lee :

omg wow timing is insane on this one…

abi 🪼 :

I have BPD. They literally DO control my day 😭

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Meaganjainxi :

I have anxious attatchment but I find it rude to not simply tell me your busy, it’s not about anything else, if you care enough about someone you’ll take 30 seconds to send a quick message explaining your busy, but that’s just me

Alitaaa.rose🎀🎀 :

Doc P :

"I am in this video and I dont like it"

Karen from finance 🇺🇸 :

I ask myself to decide “is this a real or perceived abandonment?” and most of the time it’s the latter.