@kyleinspires: Why you can't stop thinking about them (brain science explains it) #psychology #overthinking #relationships

Sparkplug430 :

blame my parents✍️got it

Allstar7 :

limerence takes up to 18 months to let someone go 18!!!!!! ugh

Francis Akyeampong M :

I’m aware of it, just in love now so 🫤

Biehbly :

He's all 3. I'm doomed 😂

Erika :

I hate my brain

ngu :

No. 1! But how do you get over the unfinished story, besides naming it? I’ve been aware of the lack of closure for so long but I’m still unsure how to move on without having had a conversation. Any advice?

figuringitout :

ALL THREE. I need to block him 💀

The voices :

Savannah-Rose💫 :

You have explained it best🙏

🦋Michelle🦋 :

Ok so do I like reach out to him and ask for closure after 5 months since he broke up with me, after we were “leveling up” and he was about to call me his gf and I call him my bf and he was excited for our future and planning our next date, then a week later called me to say he “thought about this and I don’t feel the same as I did.” And then proceeded to talk to me like a friend for 3 hours, lots of laughs, I cried but held my composure because I was very confused, first ever breakup like that. And he was like “it’s not see you never!” And then after that 3 hour phone call, I cried till dawn. Then a couple days later he “checked in on me” and we kept in touch over text every few days as I tried to heal but was really sad, couldn’t go a day without crying. Of course I never told him that. I just kept it like “oh today was my niece’s running race” like that type of thing. And then after a month he stopped checking in and then I checked in on him once a week all of April and in late April he was flirting with me and promising to call to check in and play video games with me (because we both loved to play video games together when dating) and I was like ok when? And he kept saying he had a long day etc.. but then would make tiktoks and send them to me and I would send him mine. And he was like still flirting and saying how we are going to hangout and I took it as he wanted to rekindle and then he said “I thought you wanted to save your first kiss for someone serious” and I was like “I thought so too but maybe that can be you” and he was like sending gifs like confused then he was like “we tried that, but if we both decide to try again in the future, I try to stay open minded” and that Kaden e cry again late April. And I was like ok I’d like that, for now let’s focus on our bestie bond. And he agreed. Then in early May he told me he couldn’t call after all or play video games because he was busy busy and also “dating a little” then a week after that (we hadn’t gone a week without texting at that time) he said “I’m trying to be respectful to the person I’m dating currently and talking to you isn’t kosher. But we can check in here and there and have a phone call (con)

reid :

Pop psychology kills. What about people who remind you of your childhood best friend, your first crush, a positive parental figure … the negative spin used to engagement mine here is a real bummer. Life is more complicated people.

🥀LadyGuillory ✨️✨️✨️ :

Unfinished story

B :

I think maybe you just saved my life?

ImSimplyGravy :

What is the condition that you have? if you don't have any of these? like you don't get obsessed which other people interpret as you don't love them

Sam :

All three at once. Repeatedly. I feel very attacked.

odochiagigant :

The third one definitely

✨DiDee✨ :

What are your thoughts on the white polar bear theory?

F.A :

I KNOW!!! why im obsessing with them,I understood i wanted to BE them...Its extreme admiration...maybe a bit of jelousy,but at the same time I understand they got there woth hard work which I know I dont have the drive to put in...they represent the passion I lost... and yes,it helps me cope with the reality I am very aware of,that I cannot escape...

MyBoi :

it's been 2 years and I still wish she would come back

Aisha :

Lack of closure

sofia_fia222 :

Unfinished story. He never told me that he lost interest. I knew it was real. I felt it and I am sure he did too but he left so abruptly!

Robbie | A Soft Journal :

The unfinished story. I have a thing for needing closure even if it hurts. When I can't get it, I'm trying to finish the incomplete story myself but it's always assumption or theory not the actual fact I need. Exhausting 😩

Elisa :

"rejection breeds obsession" heard Tony Robbins say

Meg :

What if they trigger all three oml ?

Darkellaine :

is there even love out there then? i feel like every attachment i developed was a variation of these...