@healingbythenumbers_: Welcome to That Was Abuse, where I share moments from my 10-year abusive marriage while getting ready for the life I have now. Most of these won’t sound extreme. They’re just the ones that I now realize were GIGANTIC red flags. ... Episode 9: The iPhones Two months into dating, he bought me my first iPhone. I didn’t ask for it and I felt awkward accepting something so expensive. But he insisted—said my “dorky” sliding keyboard phone had to go. Funny how generous gifts feel like love... until you realize they were tied to control. A few days later, he asked me to hold his brand-new iPhone while he played volleyball. It slipped out of my pocket, hit the cement, and cracked the screen. I was horrified. I apologized over and over. I offered to replace it, even though I had no money. He hugged me and said it was okay. “No big deal.” But less than a year later, that version of him was gone. He never let me forget I once cracked his phone. Not in ten years. Love bombing isn’t just about grand gestures. It’s about making you believe kindness is who they are— So you’ll blame yourself when it disappears. It took me 11 years to leave. But this was the start. That was abuse. … ✨ If you’ve ever felt like you “owed” someone for their kindness, only to be punished for messing up later—stick around. And if you’re wondering when it all began— Maybe it was earlier than you thought. 💔 #healingbythenumbers #getreadywithme #thatwasabuse #SurvivorStories #lovebombing

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