@elephantssintheroom: ❤️‍🩹 #podcast #relationships #peoplepleasing #healing

jrodmane :

“The Let Them Theory.” Great book by Mel Robbins!

natie :

Kevin's life :

As parents it is really hard to let their kids enjoy so-called “freedom”.when you see your kids are addicted to drugs, absent from school, jumped in the gang violence, can you just let them go?

CoachCdub :

The goal is not to eliminate pain, the goal is to help them deal with, reduce and eliminate suffering. There is a difference, but it’s an important one.

lori_hendrix :

So exhausting

shopaholiks :

Love is freedom ❤️

Griffin Brown :

Had to let go of my best friend since 7th grade because of this. Praying for God to change his heart.

Mooky :

This is so true. I am always trying to spare my loved ones from pain.

JNicHeid14 :

😢 so hard when it’s your daughter you’re trying to save from a lifetime of heart ache.

guest38594738294 :

My life story

Tuwanna Hammond :

So true..

Cyn :

Acceptance is so hard but we learn and grow from it 🤍 we can’t save everyone, and the most important thing in life is to save ourselves before anyone else!

Audsjourneytoahappymind :

This is the thing I need to learn and change

Amber Dawn :

I walked away from him tonight.....

Hayden Burton :

I needed to hear this 💯

Andrea 🏁 :

Beautifully said! 💯👌✨

Josh :

I needed to hear this tn

Johnny :

Wow!!!

daisy :

My son just took a bunch of benadryl yesterday put himself into multiple seizures. he's ok, im not ok 😔 I needed this.

Vincent_1234 :

Definition of love

Juan A. Alvarez -Martinez :

Then sometimes we will go into the storm together, learn to dance in the rain ☔🥰🙏

Michael Song :

Thank you for your message. This definitely applies to me and my relationship with my younger brother. I’m worry he’s going to go through the same suffering I have gone through and wanting to protect him from that same suffering 😔

Just breathe :

I didn’t want to walk away but I had to and he knows why, he needs to not act like he don’t know why I did what I did. 🙏💯

Çĺ䧧ƴ★ị§ĥ :

We have a responsibility-a command even, to love ourselves first so that we know how to love others. I am a (recovering😉) people pleaser. What I’ve learned is that if we treated ourselves with even a fraction of the grace and kindness we treat others with-it would no longer be people pleasing. It would be genuine. Because it would come from overflow rather than lack. We forget where it all begins. We people please because something inside of us is telling us we are not lovable unless we can make everyone around us happy. Loving yourself means to be ok with them walking away when we say no. It means that when it comes to those who keep hurting you whether directly or biproxy with their actions or words you MUST allow them to feel the consequences of their actions or you will continue to suffer the consequence of yours. Controlling others is not love. But controlling yourself is love. For yourself and others. Realizing people pleasing IS actually not protecting you from anything but rather prolonging your pain and multiplying the abuse is the first step. Being proactive to change the behavior is love in action. And when you stop laying a mattress under the other person and they finally get the chance to self reflect and feel the impact of their fall-healing can begin in them as well if they choose. Either way it won’t be your problem anymore. 😉

watchout082 :

isnt it the same as working with a child growing up?