@mindbrainbodylab: How to become less defensive in your relationship! In relationships, there’s always two truths in conflict: One person needs their hurt acknowledged. The other needs to know they’re not a bad person for causing it. Here’s the thing: impact and intention aren’t in competition, they’re in conversation. You can validate the wound and reassure the person who caused it. Both needs are real. Both deserve space. The couples who last aren’t the ones who avoid this tension, they’re the ones who can stay regulated enough to hold both truths at once. Has this ever been the fight under your fights? #dating #datingadvice #communication #Relationship #relationships