@girlthepoet: #creatorsearchinsights someone with avoidant attachment style will make you the one that got away or the phantom act in the relationship if they never felt like they were good enough for you, they involved you in their life early on in the relationship, or you created an environment of safety that they still could not sustain the relationship in. Avoidant attachment style individuals are complex and there are multiple factors that can lead them to feeling regret over the loss of the relationship. #avoidant #avoidantattachmentstyle #fyp #datingadvice
I was above. Lowered my standards for him. Never again !!!
2025-08-25 13:37:46
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n8tive_cutie :
1) they said were never going to meet your standards. 2)introduced you to their fam & friends & then pushed you out 3) said no one else has made them feel this safe
2025-08-25 16:53:19
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Vincent :
yes, yes and yes
2025-08-25 12:57:41
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Randomancy Studios :
“If we don’t work out, I’ll never love again” but she’s with her dirt bag ex
2025-08-25 14:32:06
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Elisabet :
checked all three. what is a phantom ex?
2025-08-25 18:45:06
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Claudia Rusu🇦🇹🇷🇴 :
He did all these and still discarded me
2025-08-25 19:43:00
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Louie :
All 3 and it doesn’t even matter. I let her be since I know she can’t give me what I need, at least rn. I let her know recently I’m open to catching up in person eventually. But I doubt she ever reaches out
2025-08-25 13:37:14
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Draconisa :
hm.. my pulled away 3 month ago (doubts). he came back. 2 month now rebuilding. I dont want to be phantom ex. that wouldn't bring me anything. like this? is better
2025-08-26 11:28:20
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ktg :
haha all three. and then 2 months after she discarded me she was posting the new bf all over social media. someone who is the total opposit of me 😅
2025-08-26 20:28:24
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Sarah :
Instead of “feeling safe” my ex would tell me he felt “relaxed” and he could be himself around me, which to me sounded like he felt relief and that he couldn’t normally be himself. 🤔
2025-08-25 17:40:16
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jackielamarichi :
It was her who didn’t make me feel safe after her betrayl , she never created a safe space for me to heal , she just kept adding more and more disrespect and I kept forgiving, because the love I felt for her was real … it kills me to realize how much time and effort I wasted on someone who literally in the end gave me nothing but stress , betrayal , anxiety , lies , and time lost of my own happiness
2025-08-25 18:22:39
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Dréa🦋. :
Baaaaaaaby ! Were you a fly on the wall during our relationship ? 😅😭
2025-08-26 02:32:52
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Sarahlyn :
that guy found another girl while we were together. then he messaged me 3 weeks later saying he wants to be more involved with our son. yeah, okay. you gotta explain why you are a deadbeat to your new girl. 🤣
2025-08-26 21:54:46
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angelaaa2642 :
He Said „You’re too good to be true“
2025-08-25 15:24:47
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sweetpea :
all 3 for me.
I absolutely built him up, backed him up, and encouraged everything he did. he had such low self-esteem
2025-08-25 19:52:10
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𝕤𝕒𝕣・𖤓☾・𝕦𝕙𝕙 :
Yes but also narcissists do this to lovebomb and control
2025-08-26 05:26:10
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emmaz618 :
his therapist told him to break up with me 🤗
2025-09-16 08:27:07
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C4rtiCQ :
She told me i am the only one who knows how to handle her, and i slept in their house too many times
2025-08-25 18:17:21
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elle_turner85 :
Guess I’m changing my name to Casper
2025-09-17 22:12:55
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𝛮𝑹𝒁.editz™ :
never give 2nd chances unless avoidant reach u back first, remember your standards and boundaries no matter what!
2025-08-26 05:00:02
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Stacy :
Bye. Finally.
2025-08-27 01:28:57
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Black_Panther_Donna :
Yep he did all 3
2025-08-27 14:54:44
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laura.mp4 :
3 out of 3 and he KNOWS he fumbled
2025-09-17 23:21:06
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monkey D spidey 21 ⚓ :
yes...and im terrified of that, i dont want to be a phantom ex, i want to be with her...love her...and help her stop thinking she dont deserve love and that she deserve to die...😔
2025-08-26 16:36:12
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Debbie Deb Almanza :
He did 1 and 3. I never haven’t met anyone in his family.
2025-08-26 20:51:33
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