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user1810336114030 :
exactly. it’s not just abt the act of cheating itself, it’s what it tells you abt those person’s morals and level of empathy even outside of romantic relationships. it’s also abt how they view and respect boundaries with others
2025-08-25 18:10:45
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CertifiedK1nd :
Am I a bad person if i looked the other way while best friend cheated on multiple guys ? …. Am I the problem?😭😂🤔(keep in mind ive never cheated)
2025-08-25 21:00:24
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Harper :
I had a friend who cheated on her abusive bf and I stayed friends so she would have a way to escape. He did way worse to her but when she “confessed” to him he “forgave” her and now he uses it to guilt trip her.
2025-08-25 18:40:54
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Kaela :
I think if they did it literally ONCE and made steps to change for the better, maybe we could still be friends. If you're cheating multiple times, though? That's intentional cruelty.
2025-08-25 22:43:43
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nothing2chere :
depends on the reason I guess
2025-08-25 20:49:28
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sea.borgium :
also, The big factor for me is what kind of justification they use. I have a lot less room for people who do mental gymnastics to explain why what
2025-08-26 15:07:35
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Ari🤎 :
wait, can you elaborate on the forced monogamy?
2025-08-25 17:56:21
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malile❤️ :
if someone is deceitful in their romantic relationships, chances are they're just as deceitful in their platonic ones!! speaking from experience & i learned this from my last friendship breakup! i don't think i could be close or best friends w/ one & i was close w/ this person! i do agree w/ the circumstances like if someone were to be in an abusive relationship, that's different.
2025-08-26 08:18:13
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🐸 :
I consider it abuse so unless they were cheated on first I wouldn’t be able to be friends
2025-08-26 13:19:42
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What The Chelly 💋 :
I know some people like to think if you're a bad person in one relationship category you're bad across the board. But that's not always the case. People can be bad partners but good friends. Or good friends and bad partners. Or a good parents and a bad partner, or vice versa. Or whatever the category is. It's easier to put people into boxes of good or bad people, but sometimes it's more complicated than that. Or someone is a bad partner with one person but not someone else. But I completely respect people who have the boundary of not being friends with cheaters. I am friends with people who have cheated, I've never cheated but I have been cheated on.
2025-08-25 18:13:37
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IPegYourPardon? :
I don't know honestly. i have seen people say cheating makes one an untrustworthy friend but that doesn't seem to always be the case. but idk idk idk. I wouldn't even want to know to avoid this because I think I'd end up telling so rather do it away from me where I don't know and I won't be thrown under the bus
2025-08-25 18:15:05
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mistakenj :
I consider cheating that involves sexual acts to be a form of sexual abuse. Especially if kept secret — your supposed monogamous (or non monogamous) partner is putting your health at risk.
2025-08-25 21:44:11
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nyah :
i feel like i’d distance myself not necessarily as retaliation for cheating but to me it shows they’re willing to be dishonest with loved ones even for short term gratification
2025-08-25 23:33:30
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zarina :
i think bc it can look different and be done for a medley of reasons (none of them good), i don’t wanna say i ABSOLUTELY would. it’s just not black and white to me 😭
2025-08-25 18:46:11
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ThatCatInTheWindow :
In my experience I rarely hear of a cheater who wasn't also abusive in another way so I find it hard to stay friends just cause I'll forever wonder how they actually treat their partner behind closed doors.
2025-08-26 03:57:58
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carrie :
i don’t think there’s any world in which i would fully cut off any of my closest friends for cheating (it would absolutely depend on the circumstances) but it would never be a “look the other way” situation it would be a “you tell them or i do” and if they didn’t then the friendship may be over because the inability to take accountability is more of a dealbreaker for me than making an initial bad choice but it would certainly depend on the circumstances and the effect they knew it would have on the other person
2025-08-25 22:22:53
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carly :
i’ve tried to remain friends with people when they’ve made those decisions, but i’ve always found it to be very reflective of where our principles don’t align overall.
2025-08-26 19:10:34
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WARNING: NO DIVING! :
as a child of a relationship where my father cheated on my mom... it ruined my family, lead to so much trauma to me and my siblings. so no im not friends with cheaters.
2025-08-26 22:47:19
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Basicbread :
I did, only because she had no remorse and like kinda laughed about it and the dude was a good guy (I hate people so that’s a lot coming from me) they were together for like 8 years so if you have no loyalty or compassion for him, what are you gonna do to me
2025-08-26 01:02:47
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Leftie 🦋 :
I’ve been definitely phasing out of a friendship with someone who was my best friend. We found out she cheated on her husband, lied about it, and then moved her affair partner in THREE HOURS after her husband moved out. Morals down the drain and I can’t be friends with someone like that.
2025-08-26 02:05:06
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VerifyUser :
I think for me it's the mentality and reasoning that gets me? Barring any abusive situations, i'm curious as to why they felt the need to cheat as opposed to communicating with their partner(s)/community about the feelings that incited the cheating before it took place? Depending, a cheater is often someone who avoids a hard discussion which to me is an unattractive quality in a friend? Sorry this was longwinded haha
2025-08-26 15:53:28
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lovelygould :
Appreciate your perspective. I was pressured into a poly relationship as a solution to finding out my husband had a girlfriend of 8 months that he got pregnant. We stayed together for a while, but it really shifted my relationship style and morals. I could really only ever be in a relationship now with a victim of cheating because it’s treated so lax now.
2025-08-25 23:14:38
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Zozie :
I’ve always been a person of empathy and honesty so cheating is huge to me. Just the hypothetical thought of my friend hurting their significant other in that way genuingly disgusts me 😭
2025-08-25 18:27:54
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Taliesin(Lebron James Version) :
yes. ofc I would. like I have extremely loose boundaries, but like boundaries are boundaries. I've been cheated on in polyamoury and like it's bs regardless. sh t is annoying af and people need to respect boundaries and be adults and communicate changes in feelings and relationships. (I also believe you cant cheat on an abuser or a cheater. you're not in a relationship with an abuser or a cheater anymore. you're in a dangerous situation)
2025-08-25 23:27:21
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applesauce :
i think it’s super situational. idk i would need to know why, with who, how many times, do you feel bad for what you did?, etc. but i don’t think i could easily cut off my close friend.. a conversation would need to happen first
2025-08-26 18:23:12
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