@theyogacouple: The wound of judgement creates the feeling that you are wrong or others are wrong. It places a spotlight on perceived mistakes and very black and white thinking, which ultimately makes you feel reoccurring guilt and self judgement. Ash is acting out the role of someone who is under compensating for a wound of judgement. She fears judgement and seeks to avoid guilt and so she internalizes this fear being hyper-vigilant of her partner's emotions and actions. She self sabotages by always feeling like everything is her fault and always trying to people please. What she really wants subconsciously (and didn't have in childhood or the past) is the safety to be fully accepted and loved unconditionally, the freedom to make mistakes, experience life without judgement or blame, and feel supported through life. Since she didn't receive these basic inner child needs, she seeks these out with anxious attachment behaviors that ironically perpetuate her judgement wound. What she needs to do is focus less on her anxiety and her own guilt and focus on building trust and support with her partner. When she begins to focus less on who is to blame and more on how can we support and understand each other - a stable and trusting relationship is built. A supportive partner can help by offering reassurance and sharing their experience and emotions openly and honestly - this shows trust and allows each other to understand what they are experiencing without the need to tip toe or anxiously figure out why something is happening. - for more guidance on how to heal this wound and support your partner, The Inner Work of Relationships book is available on TikTok shop and Amazon! #relationshipadvice #anxiousattachment #relationshipanxiety #anxiousattachmentstyle #communicationskills

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Wednesday 27 August 2025 15:15:53 GMT