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KtG :
My mom was an infinitely better mother to me than her mom was to her, and she still did stuff like this that had a lasting impact on me. I feel rage for both of us, and my sisters.
2025-09-02 14:22:49
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Hazel :
heavy on the 'as a woman, I understand and don't blame her, as a mother, I can't understand or forgive her'
2025-09-02 00:43:13
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Amber Teague :
I have found most people are having children as an emotional need filler.
2025-09-02 14:59:59
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redacted :
"that rage is self love" made something click for me
2025-09-02 00:07:04
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musicoholikk :
I’m curious, what happens to your mothers when they stop relying on you emotionally? Mine just went crazy
2025-09-01 23:17:08
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Riddhi | OC/LA Realtor® :
same same same. she was my bestie. ppl were so confused on how i went from 100 to no contact! but once you know, you can’t unsee their behaviors and manipulative tactics.
2025-09-02 00:53:31
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Gem Stafford :
I’m 34 and only now starting to feel the rage. 34 years 😮💨
2025-09-01 23:11:35
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Wendie Storm :
My therapist told me “someone else’s trauma doesn’t excuse the trauma they’ve put you through” and that was life changing for me.
2025-09-03 21:14:52
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Brooke Megan🏳️🌈💙🇵🇸📚🧶🎸 :
I wasn't my mother's best friend. I was her scapegoat, the child she blamed whenever things went wrong, whenever she was dysregulated and that one who was made to absorb her rage and anger. I was the kid who pushed back and was told I deserved her anger and violence. your advice is so wise and salient. thank you for sharing with clarity and vulnerability
2025-09-02 03:07:42
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ozonda :
the rage of constantly violated boundaries
2025-09-04 09:26:05
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Cassandra :
I didnt start realizing until I was in my 30s and didnt process till 40s
2025-09-02 00:12:16
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Megan Huerta🍉 :
My mom would trauma dump on me so often that’s why I thought we were best friends, but when I look back. She never helped me with any of my own problems. She just dumped on me. Later on I’d express to people how badly it affected me and they would respond with “she needed to tell someone”. That’s cool and all but why a child? I was so small and had to grow up too fast. I never had a chance to know who I was before I was told who to be.
2025-09-05 19:29:56
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🍉Naz.TheArtHealer🦄♑🧿 :
The sacred rage of being the punching bag, marriage counselor, cheerleader and beat friend for your mother is so ever-consuming
2025-09-03 19:12:35
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nicefriend:) :
“that rage is self love” is such a powerful statement
2025-09-02 14:57:08
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loralyncross :
The rage hasn’t hit yet. Every time I start to get mad, I then feel guilty for feeling that way.
2025-10-30 17:17:09
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Say Myname :
My mother made me her best friend when she felt like and her punching bag whenever she felt like it.
2025-09-04 10:34:32
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ThatOneGirlVS :
I have been on this app forever and have never heard someone tell my literal story verbatim. I'm 52 years old now and having to care for my mother even though I've been her glue for what seems like most of my life. I still have very bad days even though I have forgiven her. It is a tough pill to swallow for sure. I've been in therapy most of my adult life and only finally found a therapist 4 years ago that explained what itnmeshment is. The waves of anger are wild. I'm just tired.
2025-09-03 16:20:58
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angreads 📚 :
As I’m currently feeling said rage .. I’m 33 and still going through this 🥺 I’m fully aware but I feel this HARSH fear of abandoning my mother when I feel like she needs me. Ugh 😒
2025-10-20 16:46:54
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graceful the g꩜ddess 𓋹 :
our spirit understands, but our flesh holds resentment.
2025-09-02 15:44:59
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smittyholdthejager :
and now the rage of having to figure out as an adult with half of the tools I should have and twice the work to do. They didn’t have the tools, but they could have done the work and didn’t.
2025-09-02 17:37:04
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Beth | Faith, Life & Humor :
The way I NEVER felt like a child…i look at children now and feel like I was never that age bc I was just treated like an adult. Her therapist was my role.
2025-09-03 02:44:19
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🦀 :
I relate to this so heavily except my mom clearly didn’t like me my entire childhood while still using me as emotional support. Now that she has no friends she’s trying to force me to be her best friend and I can’t stand it. Rage is right.
2025-09-02 18:55:01
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Yashita Prasad406 :
Yup this why people who say “you have to forgive not for them but for yourself” ENRAGE me. We didn’t even get a chance TO BE angry without being punished and now it feels like we’re being punished again for finally understanding it was wrong and feeling (justified) rage. And simultaneously by these same people who say to forgive, are being told “you need to understand you were abused, so you can stop projecting onto me”. Girl you’re acting just like my abuser, you’re just using social justice language bffr.
2025-09-02 05:23:37
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Capri☀️ :
My mom couldn’t stand me when I was a kid and physically/verbally/emotionally abused me so much to the point where I developed a stutter and got diagnosed with social anxiety, at the same time she would vent and trauma dump to me from when I was in kindergarten. I never got to have a childhood and my life was stolen from me 😔
2025-09-05 10:08:43
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Jack 💕💕 :
as a women, i feel deep sympathy and sorrow for what my mother has gone through in her life. as her daughter, I will never forgive her
2025-09-05 14:19:45
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