@nadiaaddesi: In relationships, a lot of people think they’re listening because they’re quiet while the other person talks. But listening isn’t enough if it doesn’t lead to change. Something I see all the time in therapy is one person explaining their needs over and over, hoping their partner will understand. And the partner might say “you’re right” or promise to do better. But then nothing changes. No new behavior. No real effort. Just temporary reassurance followed by the same patterns. Eventually, the person asking for more starts to feel like they’re repeating themselves just to be ignored. And over time, that starts to wear them down. They stop bringing things up. They stop hoping it will be different. Not because they don’t care anymore, but because it hurts too much to keep asking. This is why communication and comprehension are not the same thing. You can say everything perfectly, but if your partner doesn’t take it in, apply it, and reflect it in their actions, the relationship doesn’t grow. If your partner tells you something matters to them, treat it like it matters to the relationship. Even if it feels small to you. You don’t have to get it perfect. But you do have to show effort. If both of you are willing to try, sit down and make a plan together. What does change actually look like in your day to day? What can each of you commit to? Maybe it’s checking in once a week. Maybe it’s one intentional gesture a day. Maybe it’s planning time to reconnect. Real effort is specific. It’s consistent. And it shows your partner they’re not asking for too much. They’re asking to be cared for Ib @sadie🌟

Rae :

and then i feel like the crazy, controlling girlfriend

Zara Kavalier :

I disagree with this. love languages are real and if you can't communicate about what each of you needs it's not going to magically happen. if it never happens after that it's a different story.

Lay ♡ :

May this post find him. I'm tired of explaining it over and over

Ella :

"You tried to give me something I had to beg for, so it no longer feels right" just hits home🥺

Erika :

And then we’re called crazy for asking for the bare minimum

Baddie_S :

And then I hate this new version of myself where I constantly become sad, angry and upset.

ig: airassi_ :

Exhausted

Meg12313808 :

Wow. I feel like you just PERFECTLY described the conversation I’ll be having very, very soon. After 12 years total, 8 married and a 3YO and a 2YO. He cheated a few months ago and has done barely anything to repair. My heart is completely shattered.

Nathaliana❣ :

Even when I'm asked. he would change because he was scared of losing me then when he saw i was happy he would get comfortable again. then one day he said "im selfish and am not changing" I left."

:P :

the timing is crazy...

quietlygrowing2 :

damn that hurt. i felt every word of this.

Nikki Clark :

I keep crying on this app. Why is this happening to all of us collectively… it feels like it. Sending love to you all. You’re not too much and it doesn’t have to be this hard again

Jessica :

The way I cried reading this…

ana ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ :

i feel insane. i always look like the needy crazy insecure one, when all ive asked, all ive CLEARLY communicated was i just wanted to been seen. actually REALLY seen. 2.5 years of the same conversation and im not sure what else to do anymore. i’m so tired, and hurt.

l.tæ🦭🩶🫧 :

🧁Squishycupcake17🧁 :

This should be on his fyp. But he still wouldn’t get it 🥺

Fabiola Acevedo :

I’ve been feeling like maybe I’ve been asking for too much, insanely neglected, broken and starting to second guess myself till I read the comment section… it is so sad that this is happening to sooooo many of us!

Soph 🪽 :

This is the most relatable thing I’ve ever seen

s :

silent repost.

Lee♥️ :

Literally what I’m going through right now and the sad part is I really wanted him to be my person 😔

️ :

He always say sorry but his actions speak louder

madison.wrisley :

so grateful that even 12 years in I've never felt this way. for those of you who have, I promise that there is someone out there who can and will give you what you need. your standards are not too high and settling will never be sustainable.

Hikari :

the timing is crazy..

Thomas :

She literally just broke up with me and this is how it went. I tried so hard to get it but it never seem to be enough for her. I literally did the absolute best I ever could. Tried the hardest Ive ever tried for her and she left me.