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yaysocks :
Yep. She showers me with affection and even gifts she can’t afford (even when I beg her not to) - all because it makes HER feel good. I know she “means well”. To other people I’m ungrateful. But holy shit it’s so stressful to manage!
2025-09-06 20:42:20
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chazity.bontempo :
I feel guilty even watching a video like this and feeling like I relate to it…
2025-09-05 21:41:00
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actinglikeseals :
Lorelai Gilmore…. we are all looking at you 💀
2025-09-06 00:51:25
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Faith In Nature 🧿 :
My mother called me her best friend. It set me up for a ton of imbalanced female friendships because I learned that friendship was erasing myself and being a supporting role.
2025-09-07 18:48:09
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Dr. Sarah Hensley :
This is my entire relationship with my mom and my dad was bipolar so I ended up as a fearful avoidant….who has earned my secure attachment now…and my now my relationship with my mom has great boundaries.
2025-09-05 21:56:04
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shelovesatheme :
I used to say my mom and I were close like the Gilmore Girls and I was bragging. It wasn’t until years later that I realized how much I walked on eggshells around her. It made me sad
2025-09-06 02:47:46
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Gremlinlin :
You know you’re enmeshed when you had to learn how to emotionally support your mum at a very young age, and still you didn’t feel comfortable opening up to her. Because when you do your feelings get invalidated or ridiculed. So you only exist for her, to be her support. Your struggles aren’t important to her.
2025-09-11 18:42:02
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FreedomDiver :
id argue that codependent enmeshment is neglect because even if you get attention your authentic needs aren't met you are put in a roll to perform for her she condition you to mask
2025-09-06 16:30:47
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Neeps & Tatties :
you're the first person to so perfectly verbalize how ive felt most of my life. I always say my mom is "nice" and she can be kind but I feel like there is no room for me in our relationship. she doesn't even know me and im 43. ive spent decades gasighting myself bc of my resentment & that I desperately want space.
2025-09-05 20:56:09
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Jennifrmdablck :
When my therapist first used the word neglect with me I was shocked I was like what do you mean I wasn't neglected she was there...and she was like proximity does not mean not neglected. 😳
2025-09-06 14:01:46
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mellsallem :
we were used as plushies and our love was squeezed from us to soothe their pain
2025-09-06 19:43:16
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Katelyn 🇨🇦 :
My mother was jealous of my newborn and instead of helping she’d call and say “I need attention too sometimes” like lady.
2025-09-07 00:24:40
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april :
Same. Seeing parents for who they actually are is painful.
2025-09-06 03:05:27
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Amichel Gilbert :
your content about codependency is soooooo healing to me. We have a very very very similar experience and how we experienced it trough the years. You put words where I could not. thank you so much ✨
2025-09-05 21:31:00
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CastleChris :
My mom dragged me through her affair my senior year of high school. I was her confident, her excuse, I hated her. Now as a mom of teens, I can’t even imagine putting my kids through that
2025-09-05 23:35:29
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littlerae64 :
I’m 39 and you are putting words to feelings I haven’t been able to articulate before
2025-09-07 05:54:45
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👑 Queen B 👑 :
I used to call my mom like 5 times a day and spend hours talking to her. she was using me for gossip and entertainment.
2025-09-07 00:14:20
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soph :
until my late 20s I would react to stuff (new music, restaurants, etc) first with what my mom would say about it. in parallel I spent hours in therapy trying to figure out why I had no sense of self 🥴
2025-09-06 17:16:06
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Katelynn Elizabeth Faulkner :
my mother would call me her best friend but I never felt like she was my best friend my husband is my bestie. I even tried pushing my mom to talk about something's like wanting to divorce my dad with her friends because yes I'm 31 but I don't wanna hear about my parents relationship like that we've been no contact for about 5 months now
2025-09-05 21:23:21
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Heathercoco :
My daughter is 3 and she’s autistic, through learning about my daughter, I learned my mom is DEFINITELY autistic, so I try and be more kind to my mom
2025-09-06 05:10:30
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Kylie Nolan :
It’s a one way relationship, the child meets the parents needs.
2025-09-08 05:31:06
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Victoria :
If I tried to talk to my dad about anything it was always “talk to your mother” but then when I did that I just got screamed at for not knowing how to do something??? Like hellooooo pls teach me. Somebody. Anybody
2025-09-06 23:24:29
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silvermoon16 :
Realized that I don’t truly see myself as an individual, how do I fix that
2025-09-05 22:04:42
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elenaseiraine :
Yes yes yes. This was my life. I went no contact a month ago. I relate to so much of your videos. I kept visiting my mom for five years and everyone told me "she's so happy when you are there." She never visited me, ever. Not after I begged her to come and she's 2 hours away by train. I find it hard to deal with the anger and rumination. Do you have tips for that? Also healing from cptsd.
2025-09-05 20:47:59
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gryphonn369 :
🙏🏻please keep talking - this one hit for me. 🩷
2025-09-05 20:50:01
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