Kina Wolfenstein
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dank :
No this works quite well for BPD (Intended Use for DBT) - bc the relationship does not stop bc of the problem behavior. The relationship will continue, no matter the reaction the client will show (something the client has not learned in past relationships)
2025-09-08 06:43:59
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seasmokeriver :
DBT as written is weirdly not trauma-informed given that it’s used almost exclusively with people who have experienced trauma
2025-09-08 07:52:30
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Shelby :
That's straight up ABA. They call it "planned ignoring" and justify it by saying "we don't ignore the child, just the behavior" which is just a way to ignore the child but make yourself feel good about it in the process.
2025-09-08 06:47:44
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oldernotwiser58 :
As an autistic person this gives ABA vibes. As someone with cPTSD, this would be retraumatizing. Big time. I’m generally dubious of behavioral therapies because I can modify my external behavior to please someone else (def had that fawn response) while internally feeling defective and broken.
2025-09-08 00:09:25
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Vee :
Full stop. Removing warmth is exactly what their abusers did to them. That is wild. They're literally re-traumatizing the person. Full stop. Not behind this at all.
2025-09-08 07:09:31
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Kayt Anne :
DBT has always rubbed me the wrong way. I know it has its place. But it’s always felt like ABA for traumatized people to me. Yes, people need to learn how to be safe, and also, a lot of this modality is just teaching people to act “normal” and not make people uncomfortable.
2025-09-08 01:13:28
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Luna 🇨🇦 🏴 :
it's giving "go to your room until you can stop crying/being upset"
2025-09-08 03:46:18
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JoGjkjk :
As a DBT therapist I have never heard of this and seems counterintuitive to other DBT interventions.
2025-09-07 23:42:36
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elby :
Punishment 👏🏻 does 👏🏻 NOT 👏🏻work 😭 compliance is not healing ❤️🩹 thanks for this video I really cannot with “behaviorism” modalities at alll
2025-09-08 00:29:20
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Æ :
my mom did this already and it didnt work the first time 🧐
2025-09-08 03:44:42
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Ally🍄 :
This goes completely against Marsha Linehan’s original intent behind DBT
2025-09-08 00:58:24
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Bookslug :
Why are so many people talking about people with bpd as through they don’t have attachment issues and trauma?! They do. This practice would be totally retraumatising and is really inhumane. They are not dogs to be trained with reenforcement, that is what this is.
2025-09-08 08:14:00
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bekahjwhite :
If this worked, everyone with a passive aggressive mother would be thriving 😂
2025-09-08 01:53:21
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LP :
things that are appropriate for one client might be completely inappropriate for another client. I feel like bashing on a technique isn’t helpful. Interventions should be based on the client and the therapeutic relationship
2025-09-08 01:03:54
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zebra💜flattie :
AuDHD. Absolutely not. I would never trust that therapist again. Ever. I would become hyper vigilant and traumatized.
2025-09-08 00:18:54
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Liv :
"abusive/coercive tactics can be effective in controlling behavior. that doesn't make them healing" 👏👏 a little louder for the behaviorists in the back!!
2025-09-08 08:03:09
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ziggyzaggyn :
Oh that would make me feel deeeeeply unsafe 🥲
2025-09-07 23:57:30
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Kayt Anne :
It’s manipulative. And can retraumatize abuse survivors.
2025-09-08 01:12:13
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Sickofsociety :
No. I would immediately not trust my therapist. What I need is reason combined with empathy/warmth.
2025-09-08 00:37:43
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LanderMe :
As an autistic person I would not understand why they changed all of a sudden and would not be able to identify what I’d done to cause it. I’d just think they’d given up on me. Not understanding what you’ve done wrong is a huge trauma trigger for autistics, this would be disastrous for the therapeutic relationship.
2025-09-08 00:45:01
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doto.moto.mia :
I never trusted DBT I’ve known multiple people who went through it & they didn’t improve and some came out more fawning i think it’s about making people more palatable and not helping people actually cope. I’ve seen people lower their standards and accept worse treatment after dbt
2025-09-08 00:56:52
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eddie :
All this would do is discourage me from being honest tbh. I understand not wanting to enable unhealthy behavior, but if someone is backsliding, they need more support, not less
2025-09-08 03:20:45
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quartzcrocheter :
So do the thing that helped give me a personality disorder in order to help my personality disorder?????
2025-09-08 03:08:00
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comradecrabrangoon :
Woah actually thank you so much for this. I was in DBT for years and I left because of this specifically but I didn’t have such succinct words for it, just coercion & manipulation I felt from my provider to “behave” or “control myself”
2025-09-08 03:07:58
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Chaotic Mermaid :
Why why why is it always coercive? Why can’t they just provide support and when appropriate honesty? I’m so sick of the amount of tactics that resolve around treating humans like dogs.
2025-09-08 15:19:09
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