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I’m working with some new students, and many of them are adopted or in the system. One thing they all have in common is this shared feeling of  “there’s a  hole in my heart,” … something each of them have said to me.  The difficult truth is no matter the amount of love or affection we can give, we can not “love” the trauma out of their minds or their bodies.” Many of them have no idea just how pervasive and insidious the trauma is, or how it impacts ALL of their ability to connect to other people, in ANY relationship. It effects them as children; definitely effects them as teenagers where they’re learning toxic coping skills; and into adulthood. But it even effects relationships with their own children.  I had one parent whom had been adopted themself, who confessed rather earnestly that they resented their own children for having the home they never did. Even though they were the one who provided the home, there’s still this unconscious undercurrent of resentment for the thing they never had.  As a teacher, I love my students with everything I am. I would do anything I could, and have on many occasions fed them food out of my own fridge.  But, time and time again, what I’ve discovered is the real hunger is for someone to tell the “you are enough, you are loved, you are wanted and accepted here.” It’s a shared “home sickness,” and the pain it causes me to witness such suffering is unspeakable.  That said, I’m honored for this potential new path I’ll be taking, pending some more research. This video was a rather poignant one to illustrate my passion on the subject. #fyp
I’m working with some new students, and many of them are adopted or in the system. One thing they all have in common is this shared feeling of “there’s a hole in my heart,” … something each of them have said to me. The difficult truth is no matter the amount of love or affection we can give, we can not “love” the trauma out of their minds or their bodies.” Many of them have no idea just how pervasive and insidious the trauma is, or how it impacts ALL of their ability to connect to other people, in ANY relationship. It effects them as children; definitely effects them as teenagers where they’re learning toxic coping skills; and into adulthood. But it even effects relationships with their own children. I had one parent whom had been adopted themself, who confessed rather earnestly that they resented their own children for having the home they never did. Even though they were the one who provided the home, there’s still this unconscious undercurrent of resentment for the thing they never had. As a teacher, I love my students with everything I am. I would do anything I could, and have on many occasions fed them food out of my own fridge. But, time and time again, what I’ve discovered is the real hunger is for someone to tell the “you are enough, you are loved, you are wanted and accepted here.” It’s a shared “home sickness,” and the pain it causes me to witness such suffering is unspeakable. That said, I’m honored for this potential new path I’ll be taking, pending some more research. This video was a rather poignant one to illustrate my passion on the subject. #fyp

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