@chris_hatfield: STOP thinking “if they wanted to they would” #iftheywantedtotheywould #attachmentstyle #communicationskills #expectation #anxiousattachment
Sometimes that's just not them either. Everyone has different ways to communicate and they have their own boundaries.
2025-09-08 15:19:12
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Simone | UNDER CONSTRUCTION ⏳️ :
but what if I already told them, and not only once? 🙃
2025-09-08 16:16:55
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Haven :
I wish I seen this sooner
2025-10-07 04:45:39
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user62231580418858 :
Disagree. You should not have to tell people to do what should be considered very basic things.
2025-09-10 20:47:09
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littlestchaosgremlin :
All he had to do was show up, he suggested the date and the time, left me on delivered the whole day before. If he wanted to see me he would have.
2025-09-14 15:06:54
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🏔️⛰️💙GW💙⛰️🏔️ :
You’re right. We should give them permission to do the bare minimum. Sound advice. 🙄
2025-09-10 02:54:18
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MaYa👸🏽 :
As an anxious girlie this helps thank you
2025-09-08 23:50:46
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EmiGM :
I agree . How can they know ? The same things don’t matter to everyone.
2025-09-26 21:40:38
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X :
the "if they wanted to they would" thing for me is about seeing how they treated and communicated with their previous relationships and how they refuse to with me that's the thing
2025-09-18 15:56:59
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Mrs gremlin :
The timing is crazy
2025-10-04 17:46:29
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⋆౨ৎbecca🪽.。. :
Gang what if I’ve been on delivered for 2 days
2025-10-08 17:15:13
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Linda Cornelius :
Tbh it's not that easy...
2025-09-11 17:56:53
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ashuls36 :
I did and then still chose not to. That’s when I say if he wanted to he would. When I’ve said hey this matters to me can we sort it out and then……nothing.
2025-09-09 11:55:09
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Silver Fox 🇨🇦 :
Have to disagree, from experience if they wanted to they would have holds true 100% of the time
2025-10-06 01:00:28
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khat_banaras :
Chris you talk so much sense! Thankyou so much for this! I needed to hear this today as an anxious attacher!
2025-09-08 15:39:20
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emmaanne402 :
Why should I have to explain to a grown man that I want to be treated well with decency, love and respect?
2025-09-11 08:15:10
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Zee :
This is so true
2025-10-15 20:00:27
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Linsey :
I understand.. but what if i asked people to make an appointment, and everytime the answer is “we shall see” “i need to check my agenda” “i have something else” And we still keep texting everyday to eachother. But there are appoinments with other friends aswell..
2025-09-15 07:26:45
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Jennifer :
Yes!!!💯
2025-09-10 20:34:27
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Danča :
Always two sides to a coin…
2025-09-08 16:40:42
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Mark Horsley :
you make so much sence
2025-09-09 19:34:09
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Celina Marquez :
Needed to hear this so badly
2025-09-10 15:40:38
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Jujubean_1111 :
100%. Thank you!!
2025-09-09 18:26:06
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Ash P :
I’ve actually had to come to a realization with this and one of my friends. I actually have to tell them bc otherwise they are oblivious. They simply don’t know unless I say something.
2025-09-09 13:09:29
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laura :
what if they chatted all week then next dissappear and only 2 words a day morning how are you
2025-09-08 19:25:54
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