@mackenzieherman: It was all going so well…then they end it…#avoidant #attachmentstyles

🌀halia :

Why do people hate on avoidants its not like we intentionally want to hurt anyone

Matt🇨🇦 :

And then they go and post about how they want a real relationship that isnt toxic.... meanwhile they are the toxic one ending things that couldnhave been great...

dia :

people be like "support mental health!!" and then go and call avoidants every name on the planet 😭

Angela Dawson 🏳️‍🌈✨️🥰💜 :

The self-sabotage is real

Bebe :

Uh..I thought this was a safe space but everyone’s just hating

Nunneyabizness :

: They end it slowly, with distance until you say something about that which becomes their OUT

Topias🟦⬛️ :

”Avoidants” are just immature narcissists who don’t care about others’ feelings

Leanna Lucas :

avoidants feeling sorry for themselves because nothing is ever their fault

Juliannaaa771 :

i love reading about myself in the comments

lion :

No, they end it when it feels too suffocating and they lack freedom

nyuki :

People who acting like we are the WORST things in the world is crazy. Why won’t they talk the same with other attachment types?

Mugvibes :

Eg.9131 :

“Sorry it didn’t work “ … it was perfect hahahaha😂

🏹тαм・ﾟ :

I hope ALL of you that commented with hate towards avoidant, became one of it. so ya’ll could understand what the hell is going on in our head

Tiluta :

Avoidant hate is spearheaded by anxious attachment people

️ :

I don’t know why I bite. I’m not a violent dog.

user2122661233616 :

"why are you single?" "I'm afraid it'll work lol 🥰" -literally my answer as avoidant final boss 🔥

maddy_perez :

All the people demonizing avoidants in the comment sections are the exact reason we can’t open up to you!! Hope this opens some minds to empathy and understanding

✪ :

the comments.. i'm in my enemy's territory

𝒚𝒂𝒓𝒂 [51%] :

“We don’t do it intentionally” you are very much aware of your patterns and how you’ll most likely act when getting to know someone. So how about taking some accountability, don’t get into relationships when you’re not ready and GO TO THERAPY FFS

444zofleur :

LITERALLY the excuse he gave to our friend about how he understood he had to break up with me.

dean :

i feel like we're MISSING the fact of why some people turn out this way. a lot of avoidants tend to feel uncomfortable when something is going good because it's not what they're used to. their concept and experience of love is fuxxed up (usually starts from familial "love"). if someone grew up with a family that constantly makes them feel worthless, having someone that makes them feel worth it isn't something they're used to and they want to run away from it because they're uneasy or scared. i'm not saying this is for everyone's case and i'm not saying they shouldn't have accountability, what i'm saying is some people quite literally a) do not know they are avoidant (especially if it's their first relationship) and b) it's difficult for them to control these tendencies. but having a partner that communicates with you is VERY helpful. almost everyone deserves love, even (or especially) avoidants.

aly’s archives ˖⁺‧₊˚♡˚₊‧⁺˖ :

Why do they sabotage good things and are they even aware that they’re like this?

gees :

TRUST ME IM WORKING ON IT

Just maurel :

them: oh no what's that, happiness and sunshine over the horizon 🥲