@better.social.skills: I moved to a new city when I was 30 and managed to make form a friend group within a few months. First, I started off by just meeting one person. And then I met that person‘s friends. And I started a group text with everybody and began inviting people to things. Then I became better friends with other members of the group and started to meet their friends too. And then I brought those people and their friends into the group as well. By that point, it was easy to throw a party with a whole bunch of people there. As someone who was new to town, I was even introducing people who had never met before. I was also willing to go to pretty much anything anyone invited me to go to, even if it wasn’t something I was naturally interested in. Have you ever made friends starting from zero? How about in a new city? Let’s hear your story in the comments. And let me know if you feel like this strategy wouldn’t work for you.
I think when you insert yourself into an already established friend group you will never truly be one of them. especially if they ever have any kind of a rift - suddenly your on the outside with everyone. I've also found thst the one friend that introduced you might be friends but not everyone in an established group clicks with you - they formed organically. I collect people from different situations and typically have lots of friends in different groups. they'd never hang out together but that's OK because I have lots of varied experiences with different people. Just lots of one on one or double date sort of thing.
2025-09-19 04:13:49
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Valeria De Leon :
But these things don’t equate to making meaningful friends with deep connections. I’ve done this & after talking more with these bunch of “friends” I realize we’re not truly friends, we don’t talk about meaningful stuff & if I’m not the one hosting and making plans no one does.
2025-09-19 04:57:20
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LZBean :
Oof. Sounds like a lot of work.
2025-09-19 05:43:02
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Russel De Sousa :
I want less friends. I'm done with people
2025-09-20 10:08:53
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Rets :
Just saying "yes" more often is an incredible way to meet new people. Find local events, like city festivals, there will be countless people for groups trying to get you to join them in some activity!
2025-09-21 09:04:39
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sidehustler :
What if you can't make 1 friend?
2025-09-23 19:02:13
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user8708852847866 :
Tried that and they ghost you. Girls I have met at yoga …were all in thr same boat looking for new friends but never responded to hangout. So weird that people would rather ghost someone than have a new friend
2025-09-25 05:45:36
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Lana :
big disclaimer: your new friend should ALSO have other friends 🤣🤣🤣
2025-10-22 08:44:26
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eternal sugar :
big disclaimer, this only works in already open societies or open people. so if you live in a pretty conservative or introverted country like any north European country aka germany, neatherlands, denmark, Belgium, Switzerland. then this will not work out.
2025-09-27 21:33:47
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Tom :
Say nice things behind peoples backs and what yourself suddenly become popular AF.
2025-09-29 13:29:25
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Melinda Hedge :
suggestions if you are in a small community that doesn't have art class, or things like that?
2025-09-19 00:18:15
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Bored Octupus :
ok, but... how. I understand the "pyramid scheme" thing but I'd need a more step by step process 😅
2025-09-25 13:18:42
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ashuls36 :
How does this work for autistic people who naturally weird people out? No judgment really want help
2025-09-21 09:28:55
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Essie :
But then criminal mind ruined my mind and I don’t trust people. I feel like everyone is secretly a serial killer 😂😂😂😂
2025-09-21 04:56:16
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Xylansya :
I always thought it was bad practice to "steal" your friend's friends or inserting yourself in an existing friend group 🤔
2025-09-29 22:36:17
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Chokoramito :
I’m moving to Florida soon! I’m following your advice.
2025-09-18 22:17:59
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SiCnamese :
I adopt my friend's friends, yes.
2025-09-20 10:32:28
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Carla :
I wish this worked. where i live no one wants to do anything 😒
2025-09-20 04:39:27
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Fay Lee :
Yeah I don’t think I can do that
2025-09-20 04:09:57
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Pffft 🆘 :
Absolutely! I made a point that if I was invited, I’d go!! Started with trivial pursuit at a local bar and expanded into Christmas parties and Happy Hours and cruises and a wedding in Germany and Halloweens in Sweden!!
2025-09-19 09:56:35
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Stephanie :
I’ve been in my new city for almost 3 years no friends yet 😬😭😅
2026-02-03 00:08:39
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Tim Smith :
What happens when you invite people constantly and they are always too busy?
2025-10-22 11:55:09
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Lala Ray :
This does not work in the Netherlands, it must be a joke. Maybe it works in the Usa
2025-11-29 18:06:37
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Esplorando :
what if they don’t invite you to meet their friend ?
2025-09-26 00:03:04
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