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mdg245 :
AuDHD here and I have found it helpful. Basically it’s giving myself permission to to focus on something else without guilt because if I can’t do anything about it, it’s not my responsibility/fault. Doesn’t always work mind you.
2025-09-20 01:53:35
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NotsoNeurotypical :
Yeah that sends me in a loop, or when people say “it is what it is” then that’s it they don’t discuss it further
2025-09-19 21:19:07
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ooopsieedaisees :
Right? “Well, there’s nothing we can do about it” ✨queue intense and persistent rumination✨
2025-09-20 19:40:09
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Skyler 🏳️⚧️🇨🇦 :
AuDHD here, it's not worth putting energy into worrying about it if i can't change the outcome, so I don't. I just do my best to prepare for the fallout
2025-10-26 01:52:21
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jaylittle0402 :
Let’s say you walk into a room full of unfinished puzzles (literal puzzles), and are told to complete as many of them as possible. At some point you get really invested in one specific puzzle, but it’s just not clicking and it’s becoming very frustrating. And then, after a few minutes of you getting increasingly stressed trying to figure out this puzzle, the instructor tells you, “oh, right I should’ve told you… that *particular* puzzle that you’re working on is unsolvable. It’s missing pieces and you’ll never be able to finish it. Why don’t you move on to another one?” —in that moment you are being told A. That your initial stress and frustration wasn’t due to your own incompetency, but due to an unsolvable situation, B. That anyone would’ve had those same difficulties, because the task was impossible, so there’s no sense in dwelling on what you could’ve done differently, and C. There are other tasks out there where your skill and attention could be better utilized, so why waste any more time worrying about why an impossible puzzle wasn’t coming together?
2025-09-20 07:18:49
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Jookie🍉 :
this isn't a neurotypical thing tbh broski, I'm incredibly ADHD and thats what I do, I just switch my stress to something else lmfao
2025-09-19 21:14:55
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Kollodis :
I learned to distract myself until I forget the problem I can't do anything about it
2025-09-20 07:12:01
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𐔌 . ⋮🍎 AppleTart .ᐟ ֹ ₊ ꒱ :
I’m cool
2025-09-19 21:14:30
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Cαt :
it's also generally NOT TRUE! you can almost always do *something*, even if it doesn't directly fix the problem.
2025-11-17 08:00:59
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Zel 🚦🦜 :
It's called "Accepting my fate"
2025-09-20 02:34:49
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Kyla :
no literally like now I feel helpless against the situation and nothing I can do will change anything 😭
2025-09-19 21:17:45
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fossilizedmilk :
I think what they are saying is to give up?
2025-09-20 14:36:11
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Banana Bread: *at work* :
Question...why does it make it worse? Wouldn't it be worse to have a problem, with a solution you are able to do, but for some reason it's not working, and it works for everyone else?
2025-09-20 02:38:46
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Fearful Foremem :
I’ve managed to register it from the other perspective, there’s nothing you can do, ergo, you have already done all you can, it is no longer your responsibility.
2025-10-15 22:20:51
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Shan :
It's the acceptance of not being able to change it, to accept your lack of control. I don't actually know how it helps because I'm not good at it. Then I'm like well point me in the direction of someone who can do something about it.
2025-09-20 02:06:29
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RoyalAgony :
Same as long as an issue exists then the stress will not leave it is constant fight or flight so help me fix the issue
2025-09-20 01:10:28
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shiningjoules :
Wait that’s a thing….. omg that explains so much about how they’re staring at the maw of the worst apocalypse and feel so cozy letting it become unpreventable
2025-09-20 02:01:08
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ElectroCute 🍉🔻 :
the fact that I can't do anything about it just causes me more stress what do you mean 😭
2025-09-26 10:07:44
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᭝ ᨳ.grace.ଓ ՟ :
okay im nd but i DO understand this one. its literally just pretend youre not stressed and do what youd do if you werent stressed. IGNORE IT until its over. thats what they mean 😭
2025-09-19 22:55:02
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Izenami :
yeah like if I can’t even blame it on myself then where the freak am i supposed to aim these anxious feelings
2025-11-16 11:30:05
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LoserMan :
"there's nothing you can do about it so just don't stress!" actually the fact that i can't do anything about it is what's making me stress because i have to fix problems and me not being able to do anything to fix this one problem is creating a plethora of new problems that did not exist before so actually i would be less stressed if i could do something about it
2025-09-22 15:14:21
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Elliot🐁 :
Neurodivergent w anxiety I think of it like no matter what I do—if I stress, if I don’t, if I work really hard to change it—nothing will come of it. So I distract myself and try to act like it doesn’t exist or put in contingency plans instead
2025-09-20 02:09:40
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🧼🫷gaper bingzoid🫸🚿 :
the main stress of multiple horror games and books and stuff is not being able to do anything like fnaf like u can’t move u can’t do shit to escape there’s just an incoming threat that u can wait to go away but like it will always come back and they usually understand that because i’ve found that a strangely high number of people in my circle rlly like fnaf like just horror tbf
2025-09-19 23:40:19
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RedLovette 💋 :
A better thing to say is that its not your job to fix it and it not at all your fault.
2025-11-09 00:12:59
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Caitlin :
me! Right now with my car, she's not pretty but there's a new scratch on it and in trying to find out what happened but everyones telling me to let it go and I can't 😭
2025-09-19 21:15:01
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