@jaycub_1292: To heal avoidant attachment when you also have ADHD, you must practice allowing yourself to be in states of healthy dependency on others. Of course, you don’t want this to go to the extreme—and with ADHD that’s especially difficult, because neurochemistry often makes it harder to stay in the gray area. The advice I’d give is to work strategically: practice dependency with people in your trusted inner circle, while resisting the urge to always default to control in your outer circle. This is complicated, but it speaks to the shadow element many people with avoidant attachment and ADHD carry—the side that hates lack of control and fears being judged when depending on others. The work is to embrace that part of yourself instead of rejecting it. Don’t judge the inner child who once felt free. As an adult, you must find strategic ways to let that inner child out—without aligning with the voices of a society that misunderstood your unique neurochemistry. Instead of suppressing the motivation and energy that were always meant to help you thrive, learn to channel them in ways that bring both success and deeper connection. #adhdtiktok #avoidantattachment #selfhelp #neurodivergent @Dr. Vincent Barbieri, PhD

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