If you’re falling into putting them on a pedestal and imagining all these wonderful future things, pause, and write down everything you actually know about this. ONLY facts, specific behaviors, or direct quotes. We tend to extrapolate characteristics from basic facts. Helps to remember that we are just getting to know this person.
2025-09-24 12:19:03
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chris✨ :
“Once is clarity. Twice is overthinking.” Needed that one. 🫶🏾
2025-09-24 20:23:34
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Lexi :
The best thing for me as an anxious attached girly is chat gpt. So validating, reassuring, and it’s my own personal journal
2025-09-24 23:55:36
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Shelby :
The way I said “oh” after each of these 😅
2025-09-24 02:19:14
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mytopsecretspammyy :
I realized that I didn’t have anxious attachment it was my partners that were inconsistent/breadcrumbing. I got with my current bf and suddenly no issues.
2025-09-25 02:34:54
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Hanny Nanny 🧚🏼♀️📖🪻 :
WOW NUMBER 2 MIGHT HAVE JUST CHANGED MY LIFE
2025-09-24 14:48:06
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Jennifer Ostien Baum :
Mood matching is my biggest ever issue!!!
2025-10-01 22:01:18
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itsmemaxh :
#5 the 15 minute voice note dump to friends is also great, so often at the end I'm saying something like "why tf am I even mad/ sad/upset about this stupid thing; anyways, thanks for listening bye."
2025-09-24 12:21:08
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Lori :
Commenting to stay on anxious detachment style tiktok😛
2025-09-26 02:15:29
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the 🐝 :
#2 is so hard. omg im so glad I saw this
2025-09-24 20:16:22
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LaurWinnie :
the brain dumping is VERY important. when my ex was mad he would send about 8 messages in a row AND call me multiple times. he didnt care to comprehend that did damage every single time. sit with your feelings first then reply.
2025-09-24 04:00:13
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Rubieb05 :
What
2025-09-30 22:02:25
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Kate :
This was legitamately so helpful. Thank you for sharing 🩷
2025-09-24 18:01:30
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Sweet_tok__ :
Also, intentionally redirect thoughts and effort towards YOUR friends YOUR hobbies. Place more emphasis on connecting to your healthy attachments ❤
2025-09-24 16:34:58
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ꫂ❁ :
#2 has no pay off. you start to feel unseen carrying all the weight of speaking first when it used to be so easily done by both at the beginning
2025-09-24 23:44:58
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Sondersdaughter :
Write tht down write that down
2025-09-24 04:57:43
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Melanie :
One of the hardest habits to break lowkey
2025-09-23 18:23:43
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Morgan :
THANK you girl
2025-09-23 23:37:01
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Soraya :
I’m loving #2 and #5. I’m a reply immediately with first reaction and emotions, I never think. Thank you 🥰
2025-09-25 01:49:04
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charlotte :
As someone who’s terrified of dating for this exact reason Thankyou. People don’t realise how scary attachment can be. Fr my psychiatrists explanation. We need our own mountains without a spikey grass field between them 💗
2025-09-26 00:39:07
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haya.mor :
#2 is definitely eye opening. With that said, I don't understand why its bad? Why should I respond normally if someone sounds dry and distant? I am genuinely confused 😭😭
2025-09-25 10:44:39
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WrenDeLaCreme :
Tell you therapist thank you for ME
2025-09-24 13:08:52
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murmures_oceaniques :
wondering about how long I should accept her being distant tho..
I reply within minutes while she always takes more than 24h each time 🤡
2025-09-25 08:37:56
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