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squirrelypop :
The connection between being chosen = being safe/regulated is such a huge factor. It’s not accurate, but also a very embodied reaction to trauma. It’s taken me years to find that safety within myself instead of outside myself, and I’m still working on it.
2025-09-28 22:30:15
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ᨰׁׅꪱׁׅᥣׁׅ֪ժׁׅ݊ :
No.. Becus it s human. Connection and attachment is the most human thing ever We dont have to parhologize everything girl. We had dysfunctional attachment, but humans crave healthy attachments.
2025-09-28 19:25:08
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𖡼𖥧𖤣❀ Angela (๑ᵔ⤙ᵔ๑) ❀𖤣𖥧𖡼 :
Also: I crave the (even temporary) reassurance of not having to do it all alone and as an only child feeling the chasm between myself and the human tribe that reminds me of the pain of childhood. Being in a relationship = living in a version my world. Not in a relationship = living in my parents’ world.
2025-09-28 23:21:06
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Raquel Rojas :
the not being able to relax is so real.
2025-10-28 06:54:17
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¤ø,¸,ø¤º°NiKki_FlaMe°º¤ø,¸,ø¤ :
I'm deep in the trenches and everything you just said resonates so much I just wish it wasn't this painful
2025-09-28 23:00:45
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Dana Gilsdorf :
Thank you. My heart recognized all of it. I appreciate you posting.
2025-09-29 17:55:53
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itsrlyava_ :
This is also why I binge eat
2025-09-29 03:40:57
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threeancientfates :
I’m so glad I found your page ❤️❤️everything you are saying makes so much sense to me and is helping me on my journey
2025-09-29 01:13:29
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amber.in.wunderland :
You articulated this so well, Helena 💕✨
2025-09-29 13:16:25
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kristen✨ :
to be human is to suffer
2025-09-28 21:49:10
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Beth :
The ideas of "Non-duality" and "Oneness" and other ideas that say "you are connected to everyone on the planet" soothes the wound too. People feel separate from everyone around them which causes pain. But we aren't separate from other people, animals, nature or God. That idea of separation feels painful which makes the romantic craving even worse.
2025-10-27 14:19:26
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To You, With Love Poetry :
Yes!! This!! All of this!! We long for relief. Yearn for it. But often we look for it in others rather than in ourselves because it’s f*cking terrifying to look inward. But we must do it. We deserve to do that. We are worthy of that healing work.
2025-10-18 19:22:12
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merebellen2024 :
You are brilliant
2025-09-29 12:48:17
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HannahPierry :
Can’t relax while he’s away because i have to fix everything wrong with our life so he can come home to peace… at the cost of my own peace and a little sleep???
2025-10-09 15:50:05
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capybarafan96 :
Thank you for this post. Needed it. ♥
2025-09-28 20:55:43
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vic :
I relate to this so much
2025-09-28 19:35:03
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Racharoundtheworld :
I don’t need relief. I need someone to love me the way I love them. It doesn’t exist though
2025-09-29 23:56:17
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Mili96 :
Just wanting to be looked after
2025-11-10 11:37:34
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Stacy :
Accurate! Other addictions for many of us work the same way - it’s the only way we give ourselves permission to relax and not be “productive”
2025-11-10 01:17:39
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slut of the universe :
spot on girl
2025-10-29 20:44:16
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Mac :
To be Seen & Heard 🎯
2025-10-03 16:08:15
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Frankie S :
I feel like ur a reflection of me, everything u say I’m like yep relate. I love that stage where u lay and watch movies and order food and let go. Ur like present. I only get this with someone who I am romantically connected too. At times with friends but rarely cos they don’t teach the same kinda dopamine I guess. I remember when it happened last we both said we wish we could stay like this… i wish I could feel this alone, that relaxed feeling and not restlessness. I keep re
2025-11-10 03:03:24
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Sofia Li :
We don’t deserve to live unless serving people who don’t really need service
2025-10-27 14:11:45
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Stella :
Spot on, U R so aware, it is refreshing 🥰
2025-11-07 05:55:43
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Carmen Creatrix🍓 :
Currently struggling with this. Seeing myself go through the cycle but unable to stop it. Being in a relationship brings out my need to be chosen. I really thought I was evolved but I'm just another pick me (when I'm in love)🤦♀
2025-10-29 01:57:16
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