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msblonde :
you have to be miserable but Not as miserable as them because they have it worse always
2025-10-03 08:02:56
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Rach :
Giirrrrrllll. Being mute is exactly it! My joy irritated them heavy. Lots if snickering & side remarks/ side eyes smh
2025-10-02 22:53:20
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Rochelle Riser :
I think this is a big thing in German/Dutch/Scandinavian culture too, which is why the Midwest is the way it is. I don’t think people are intentionally passive aggressive as much as they’re so repressed that anger just seeps out any way it can
2025-10-04 00:25:27
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xy :
I became such an introvert because of this.
2025-10-03 11:58:36
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Maximum56 :
Healing is so difficult
2025-10-03 17:03:45
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user8374686329 :
I’ve never danced when anyone can see me do it in my LIFE because it makes me embarrassed
2025-10-04 01:42:02
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Brownie :
I’m south Asian and most of our families tend to me like this. I grew up avoidant because of this and don’t know how to break free
2025-10-03 01:45:17
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Salmi :
I remember my dad getting upset if we laughed too loud or too much.
2025-10-05 01:05:34
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Just another feed :
My mom never even tried to make me laugh, not once my whole life.
2025-10-28 17:47:08
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heididjdkdj :
It’s even worse when you leave your home and you can tell other people also come from repressed families so you can’t show your joy around them either, even if you’ve healed the repression inside yourself. People get so triggered by it, and I know because I used to get triggered by it too when I was unhealed.
2025-10-03 06:22:47
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Leona🗝🐦⬛🐍🕯 :
i was socialized similarly, once i turned 18 i moved away and did a lot of shadow work and inner child work during that time. now im 27, one of the more 'bubbly' people at family gatherings. i mourn my childhood years spent repressed and serious all the time but in the present its gotten a lot better (:
2025-10-04 04:46:23
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nataliinuka :
This was so incredibly validating. Thank you for speaking on this.
2025-10-03 10:17:51
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Zaddy :
My mum used to stop me from laughing and being playful saying it diminished my value as a man.
2025-10-04 07:54:39
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milly9898 :
Okay question. Is this why I feel “icky” whenever my parents show any kind of big emotion? I get physically uncomfortable when they show too much excitement, anger, annoyance…anything.
2025-10-22 21:27:33
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Solar Sage :
I could feel the extent to which my joy irritated my mother when I was a child.
2025-10-03 19:46:05
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allabout141 :
Anything that would bring you joy was taken away ….
2025-10-02 23:25:39
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Alli Syverson 🍉 :
food, but the addiction to healthy eating and controlling other people's eating. 😞
2025-10-03 02:43:55
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Grace :
How do you heal from this ? This is so niche that it takes someone who has experienced it to really understand it
2025-10-03 02:54:14
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Justyna Poserina :
I’m 45 and when my parents hear me laughing while talking to someone else- they give me this “look”. It’s like a cold look 😔
2025-10-23 17:14:49
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Runesage :
unfortunately this joyless contract expands even further, outside of the family unit...into jobs, or any circles of people (like club environments or flatmates living in the same house). It's like you can't be too overjoyed because those negative influences around you will be drawn like moth to a flame and ruin it. Not loosing your spark when surrounded by negative people it's a major flex in today's world
2025-10-05 00:30:49
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user4860116779546 :
The content here is deceptive in the sense that it’s about 100 times deeper and more insightful than it looks. Deep thinking from a very fine human being. Thank you.
2025-10-03 13:49:13
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Naba :
They taught me to be quiet, I became quiet even within myself, no noise no nothing. And then they are telling me why I am always “annoyed” at any noise/mess they create. You just took that away from me as a child and now wondering why I am annoyed you have it as an adult?
2025-10-03 10:58:27
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Kate78 :
I used to get told off for being happy. ‘What are you smiling about?’ They never smiled or laughed unless it was at someone else’s misfortune
2025-10-26 09:20:37
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AniBani ~ คีอานิ :
as an adult I see myself as a very creative and emotional person. Every time I go home, which I don't do often. the first thing my mom says before I go on a plane is "don't be you while you're here" the amount of times I want to cancel or skip that flight after that line😅😅
2025-10-04 02:32:11
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