@mackenzieherman: You can’t talk someone out of their defenses. Sometimes silence teaches louder than words ever would. #avoidant #avoidantex #attachmentstyle #attachmentstyles #nocontact

user9072384198271 :

It’s so hard because you KNOW they care!!!

EverythingBagel :

Avoidants always want ‘peace’ 🙄

Thatch_Singz 🎤 :

Why is it the hardest thing in the world to not chase?

Anamaria.Annie :

He can go enjoy his “peace” and I’ll enjoy mine

Michele :

“But your silence is a conversation they’ll never forget” hit me very good

user7278857750952 :

Best move with an avoidant is to silently move on. You’ll get over it if you stay no contact.

Katie♡ :

And at what point do they meet in the middle and the avoidant does the work they need to do to become secure instead of constantly expecting the anxious to sacrifice their own needs in the hopes they won’t get left?

skunkliz :

I’m sick of having to pull away and be less of myself in order to be chosen. Where are the videos for avoidants to be better with their anxious partners?

poordecisionmaker :

Let them go and find someone who can actually communicate and love you.

Tee :

Damn so don't give her this 5 page love letter I wrote by hand?

Ares ༽ :

Silence doesn't work with many. Many of them try to find their next victim. Because what they miss the most is validation for their ego, not love. If you are someone with values and emotionally intelligent you don't settle for this less in life. Let the avoidant to settle in an empty relationship. Don't take part on it

Jeremiah Russell :

Im an avoidant, it's like living in hell. We love deeper than anyone else, but when we receive it. Our mind doesn't know what to do with it. It stems from the lack of it in early life, it's foreign to us. The person I loved the most in my entire life, everytime she tried to love I ran or got uncomfortable. In my head I'm screaming "I love you", my brain is like run.. I Hope someday someone understands.

carmen 🏜️ :

I leave him alone to speak loudest.

Brandi🥰💕🥰 :

I’m sick of giving him space while he seeks out someone else to replace me and then wants to come back with all the right words and no actions, just to run away again. It’s sick.

Bodhisatawa society.org :

they neeeeeever listen,read or apply anything that's going to help them that cones from your mouth, it has to come from someone else outside of you...they are draining and not worth the space you save for them in your heart...they still will not respect you

AddUhLease :

The absence will be surpressed,ignored and filled with distractions lol

SexyExxy :

Thank you, I needed to hear this. I am having a hard time, never had such a strong connection end so suddenly.

khai :

Tim Davenport :

I always wait for the “I’m really sorry, and I hope this helps” 🥰 Thank you for your words

Kari :

He only uses logic.. no emotions

Dicanio Petersen :

went through something like this... giving her space and time...know I don't wanna give up...but at the same time feel like what's the point

Fe :

But now silence for 8 months - so painfull

Ooosarahcudaa :

We broke up for over a year. I broke up with him. The avoidance was too much but so was my anxious attachment. I’m in therapy. We came back together and he is so much more open because I am regulating my own nervous system. I do want him but I am fine without him now. Love yourself first. Focus on yourself rather than focusing on them.

WhoKnows ? :

Woww he has lots of time to reflect since I am soooo silent these past weeks.

lsynaitsirhc :

the best thing you can do is just reach out and just having normal convos with them without applying any pressure or guilting them for ignoring you sometimes