@justmevirginia: #chores #equalpartnership #marriage #relationships #fyp

Lil_katB :

Being a manager at work and then being one at home is so mentally exhausting and energy draining. 😑

shae ⋆˚꩜｡ :

but but but he goes to work, that’s enough!!!

snom321 :

My bf I swear it IRRITATES ME. Like why do I have to tell you everything in detail. If you see dishes in the sink DO THEM. Clothes needs washed START THE WASHER. Why must I beg

Abigail Whitaker :

And working from home does not mean the house should always be spotless because you’re home

TheBritishCrumpet :

I’m met with either “you’re standards are too high” or “if you want it done, you should do it” 🙄

Danielle :

silly_goosey3 :

Don’t settle ladies. I come home and he’s done MY laundry, cleaned house, and did projects I forgot about. Not to mention he lights the candles 🥰

Makina Ann Carrington :

But then he says your not my mom stop trying to parent me…

Tessa :

Needs to be told to do anything but then is mad about nagging. Like if I didn’t have to tell you all the time it wouldn’t feel like nagging.

canipetyourcat :

i leave a LIST and it still doesn't get done.... even daily chores that need done every day.... and when i ask i get eye rolls and "I'll get to it"

RJ :

if you were single, would the dishes still need to be done, will the laundry still need to be done, would you still need to put the trash outside? That is what the real conversation is. "if you were single and lived alone"

Hope :

I agree!!!!! once we have this conversation, you should NOW as man learn and start to implement this into the weekly routine of doing your part around the house. Like be an adult . Well said Virginia ❤. I’m not the manager

sweetpea :

It’s called weaponized incompetence… they are well aware of what needs to be done yet they act like they don’t know.

hermyjw13 :

My husband uses the excuse “I stay home with the kid” which would be a valid point if he didn’t stick her in front of tv so he could play video games 90%+ of the time. I work full time, full time in college, I do all the chores and grocery shop. I don’t mind doing more than 50% of the stuff but like it’s not too much to ask for him to do one load of laundry or cook dinner sometimes

Nathan :

Why does everyone hate their husbands?

kamikazekyle :

Is mental overload our partners responsibility? Chores need to get done, I get it. When we tell our partner to “be an adult” we are actually calling them a child. How does calling your partner a child help the problem. Are you being helpful or hurtful? The problem is the shared responsibility, not your partner. I wouldn’t want to solve things if I was being verbally abused. No one would.

𝕥ꪖ𝕣ꪖ :

Love your content ! It’s so true. I did all the housework and felt like a slave ….

Bryanne_Angel :

if you can make a mess or dirty a dish you can clean it

Libby Evans :

Collaborative conversations keep our household running smoothly.

_mamashayy_ :

This is my life story right now with a newborn 🥺 I don’t know what to do

OllyOllyOxenFree :

I’m glad I chose someone who never needs to ask me what needs done, he does his domestic labor, I do mine, and we help each other out if one is overloaded, it’s so nice. And if I ask him to do something particular, he does it RIGHT THEN and THERE, no matter what.

happyphantom242000 :

My husband just doesn’t care. He knows how it affects me, but doesn’t do anything about it. He says he works more than me (which is absolutely false) so he shouldn’t have to help as much also, he says that I am a better cook than him and I say well I can teach you?? And of course that gets me nowhere. I also ask him what would you do if tomorrow I’m gone how would you get groceries or get fed? You’d probably make our adult kids do it.

Jessica :

This. I was greatful when my husvand realized that since I am the homemaker, the one here 97% of the tike handling things that its better to run off of what I prioritize bc I have the better understanding of how our household runs and what everyones individual needs are.

Fallon🌻 :

But wait he has been working and been up since 4:30am and I get an extra hour of sleep🤷🏻‍♀️oh and I work full time as well but ya know.

Sage Sweeney :

I have to be SO SPECIFIC TOO!! Because if I don’t list what needs to be cleaned in the kitchen, only the dishes will get done. The amount of empty boxes I pull out from the cupboards and fridge is RIDICULOUS!! We don’t even have kids yet. I’ve started saying “please just do these two things and I’ll do the rest” bc I’m tired of being disappointed