1. Mention something you need done, not bought. A real provider acts, not just talks. 2. Say you’re hungry but don’t suggest a place. Watch if he offers to take you out or lets it slide. 3. Bring up a small inconvenience. A provider solves it. A taker changes the subject. 4. Talk about your week casually. If he listens for ways to make it easier, he’s wired to provide. 5. Let him see you carrying something heavy. He either jumps up or watches. That’s all you need to know. 6. Say you’re cold. Does he offer his jacket or just laugh? 7. Pretend to forget your wallet once. Not to trick — to test reflex. Providers don’t hesitate. 8. Talk about plans that need organizing. A leader steps in. A boy says “that’s up to you.” 9. Say you’re feeling overwhelmed. A provider offers help. A user offers sympathy. 10. Mention something minor that broke. He either fixes it, finds someone who will, or ignores it. 11. Talk about your goals. Providers get excited to support them. Others feel threatened. 12. Ask what he thinks about gender roles. His answer tells you if he values provision or equality-as-excuse. 13. Let him plan the next date. If he doesn’t lead, you already have your answer. 14. Say you don’t like 50/50. Watch if he debates or reassures. 15. Notice his generosity with others. Providers are consistent, not selective. 16. Talk about a big purchase casually. A provider asks “how can I help?” A taker says “you don’t need that.” 17. Let him witness you being spoiled by someone else. A provider feels inspired. A dusty man feels insulted. 18. See how he reacts to your softness. Real men protect it. Broke men mock it. 19. Pay attention to how he speaks about money. Providers talk solutions. Non-providers talk limits. 20. Say “I trust men who take care of things.” Then go quiet. A provider will instantly start proving you right. In Queen Treatment, I give you the exact words, tone, and setups to filter for providers fast. Link in bio. - @michaelaschaur